Back in the day, when we use to talk about gay marriage. Wait I brought that up. I remember an article, possible from CNN that wanted to talk about the other 97%. If 3% of Americans are gay, we can't forget that 97% are not. Public policy and the laws and regulations we create as a society also affect the 97% of people who are not gay.
And what about the 100% who are children or were children, didn't our kinship relationships or lack of affect us?
Over a year ago everyone was one the right side of history in the name of equality and rainbow customized Facebook profiles. Here we are with President-elect Trump and elected officials with (R) beside their names. I'm not sure what to think of him or how this Congress will do things, and I didn't vote for him or Hillary Clinton. (I voted for Jill Stein) I do know that Cultural Liberalism was a cancer, it ate up everything I once liked about the Democratic Party when I was younger. The DNC became the ultimate mean and nasty Queen Bee at the cafeteria lunch table.
Now over a decade I've been online using my real name Renee Aste online whether it be blogs, Facebook, or social media. I've been called a lot of bad and untruthful things. And I can admit it didn't feel good, it was hard to think what would people think if someone Google'd me.
Whatever call it or not call it or have no name for it.... public policy and the ability to keep children with their mother and father in a united and stable situation matters. As I tell my children, even gay kids have a mom and dad. For many still I will always be thought of hateful uneducated person, to mock and sneer at for personal fulfillment. I think I have done an OK job over the past day retaining and defending my views, despite just being who I am.
I can't wrap it up in a snarky meme to put anyone to shame. Because that's not the goal. Our families are fragile. Over the past decade people who actually care about the family, have been scapegoated as homophobic and shamed into silence. I keep trying not to be distracted and deal with the problem within my own community at a face to face level. I've volunteered at the Department of Children and Families. I've written detailed experiences to elected officials. I try my best within my own marriage, despite no guarantee it seems anyone will remain married in a healthy relationship. I've seen too many divorces hitting close and closer in my personal social circle.
I hope this can work itself out.