Saturday, June 20, 2015

Pardon me, but that child is intentionally fatherless. Nothing to congratulate you on.

It's Father's Day. Not all children will be able to celebrate it. This day can bring a lot of pain. We acknowledge the grief and loss of a father, whether it be by death or separation from the family. Sometimes fathers are absent by choice, and sometimes fathers are pushed out. Sometimes there is a valid reasons why a father can not be a part of a child's life (abuse/mental illness/substance issues), and sometimes a father is just a jerk. A lot of parents, if not together, overcome their differences and do their best to co-parent as loving adults. 

Passing through Facebook, I saw a "like", It was a like of a professional copyrighted photograph. Two women, as a couple, one visibly pregnant. The photographer with a several hash tags cited it as #equality #getoverit .  Thank goodness for blogs. I wasn't going to say anything and start some miserable social media war, which would only result in being called a bunch of terrible names for simply pointing out the child is being denied a parent. No need. Sooner or later, well later, the child will grow and and find his/her father like everyone else who has been denied such rights (older adoptees)


From Jezebel (the quote of out of context)
Queer people who becomes parents, no matter what the process, are “selfish” because they’re putting their own desire to be parents over their hypothetical child’s hypothetical right to a mother and a father. And so on. When the topic turns to adoption and assisted reproduction technology, the accusations of selfishness become all the more intense, because there’s money involved.

Yeah, Money. Money for a human being. You're not treating infertility, because well the assumption is that both women (or men) could become parents by simply having sex with the other biological parent.  There is no diagnosis of infertility. The problem is that you don't want the other parent involved.

Whether the recipients of a child (coerced private adoption/third party reproduction) that isn't theirs due to infertility, being single, or in a same-sex relationship the burden is on the child to accept the lost of natural parent(s) as intended to be a wonderful thing in the name of equality of love.

Bull Shit.

That's lying.

Repeat. It's ACTUALLY Lying. Not just hypothetically lying.

Lying to a child for your personal desire and benefit.

Kinship Denial.





Wish I could highlight Father's Day on a brighter note, but but being infertile, single, or gay doesn't give you an exemption. Sorry. Call me all the misguided names you want. Just pointing out what should be obvious and should be stated without fear.

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  2. Reasons to believe Jesus is alive in a new life with God can be found in quotes from two prominent atheists and a biology textbook. There is nothing wrong with the Sartre quote, and it proves that the Nagel quote is dishonest. The Nagel quote proves that the textbook quote is ignorant, unintelligent, and irrational:

    Thus the passion of man is the reverse of that of Christ, for man loses himself as man in order that God may be born. But the idea of God is contradictory and we lose ourselves in vain. Man is a useless passion. (Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness: A Phenomenological Essay on Ontology, New York: Washington Square Press, p. 784)

    Among the traditional candidates for comprehensive understanding of the relation of mind to the physical world, I believe the weight of evidence favors some from of neutral monism over the traditional alternatives of materialism, idealism, and dualism. (Thomas Nagel, Mind and Cosmos: Why the Materialist Neo-Darwinian Conception of Nature Is Almost Certainly False, location 69 of 1831)

    And certain properties of the human brain distinguish our species from all other animals. The human brain is, after all, the only known collection of matter that tries to understand itself. To most biologists, the brain and the mind are one and the same; understand how the brain is organized and how it works, and we’ll understand such mindful functions as abstract thought and feelings. Some philosophers are less comfortable with this mechanistic view of mind, finding Descartes’ concept of a mind-body duality more attractive. (Neil Campbell, Biology, 4th edition, p. 776 )

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