Rehashing old thoughts from high school, specifically the assembly from the 9th grade. Sex was about being safe. Teenagers can have sex, but they couldn't form relationships. Mixed messages that confused us. Marriage was to postponed in our minds, that we lived in an environment unable know the scripts that would bring us there.
I had boyfriends in high school, but my husband was the first man I dated. I lucked out, that initially we had 100 mills between us the first few months. It forced us to date.
But dating matters. It's a script to know someone without the expectation of anything physical. We lost the scripts, and because it was lost we didn't know how to create and build a relationship that would lead to a health marriage.
"It’s not surprising, says Cronin. This is a generation that has grown up with relatively low expectations in the realm of happily every after. Theirs is a world where most embrace group activities, punctuated with the periodic hookup, and communicate largely in digital bursts of 140-250 characters instead of in person.Cronin says this all came together for her during a lecture she gave about the campus hookup culture eight years ago. She says she was nervously anticipating controversial questions about sex and intimacy, but instead one student asked, “How would you ask someone on a date?”“How would you ask someone on a date?”