I just can't believe how blindsided I was. My views on marriage public policy should be focused on the issue of paternal involvement, that's why paternity is assumed and we collect data on childhood outcomes based on the social understanding of marriage. But there is this bandwagon effect, and no one wants to be the last one defending the idea a mom and dad should raised their children together under one roof and children have the right to their biological kin. Even if I respond that gay individuals should be loved be their mom and dad, it's like I hurled homophobic slurs.
It's just mind blowing this observance, that someone we can look into all these cultures and even current data on the link between marriage with paternal involvement and positive childhood outcomes.
And it all falls flat, because no one wants to stick out their head except for maybe the Pope.
I do find in places an interest on the importance of family from the United Nations.
Doha Call to Action
We, the representatives of civil society, academia, policy makers and individuals participating in the International Conference organized in Doha, Qatar on the 16-17 of April, 2014 by the Doha International Family Institute (DIFI), member of Qatar Foundation for Education, Science and Community Development, to commemorate the twentieth anniversary of the International Year of the Family;
Call on governments to empower and enable families to contribute to development by taking the following actions:
1. Develop comprehensive and coherent policies, integrate cross sectorial approach to support family stability and establish/strengthen a national mechanism to develop family-oriented policies and programmes and allocate adequate human and financial resources to implement, monitor and evaluate them.
2. Promote gender equality and the empowerment of women, reform discriminatory laws and policies, particularly family laws, and enact legislations to end child marriage and violence against women.
3. Recognize the contribution and responsibility of men to families, develop policies to address the impact of the absence of males/fathers on family wellbeing and promote active fatherhood.