It always annoyed me when people used the term 'gay' marriage, by placing the word 'gay' in quotation marks. Rather it seemed like we are discussing gay 'marriage', and the word marriage should be in quotation marks because we are no longer talking about marriage.
And I'm also annoyed when someone who may favor gay marriage, citing equal access to the benefit of marriage only in the next breath state that the public policy needs to get out of marriage all together. We are spending a lot of time in the courts over marriage, and yet fewer and fewer people are getting married and staying married.
Earlier this week I mentioned that my views on marriage comes from my experience and understanding from the 1990s. And the 1990s may as well be from the stone-age, because it was pre-social media. Sure we had the Internet, but it was a function of academics at the time. I was writing papers for school and using online sources for primary references in 1998.
When there is an absence of marriage who suffers?
Father Absence and the Welfare of Children is a working public policy paper from the 1990s. As people in 2014 would reference as 'the stone age'.
We estimate that as much as half of the disadvantage associated with father absence is due to the economic insecurity and instability. Another quarter is due to the loss of parental time and supervision, and the rest is probably due to a loss of social capital attributable in large measure to the higher incidence of residential mobility among single mothers and remarried mothers.The likelihood of college enrollment and graduation
One-parent families include stepfamilies. The number at the top of each bar represents the percentage of high school graduates that enrolled in college. The number near the middle represents the percentage of high school graduates that graduated from college. College graduation data are not available for HSB. All numbers are adjusted for race, sex, mother's education, father's education, number of siblings, and place of residence. All differences from two-parent families are statistically significant except the PSID.
If you read further in the paper, you will see that children may do worse if the mother remarries. Not very encouraging news, seeing how our trends currently are.
It is a little disturbing that I get called some terrible names or I may become unemployable, due to my understanding of the function of marriage and family.