Monday, February 24, 2014

Paternity and Matrimony Unlinked

7 Posts, 7 Days with Jen's Conversion Diary.

You can positively do something about this. Read the bottom of the post.

This is a photo from a Massachusetts Continuing Legal Education booklet, clearly showing we can't treat different situations in the same manner. This is the world, we all now live in. Get use to it. Good news is that biological kinship still matters, even if we can't it express in the context of marriage. We know to be careful to link biological kinships with marriage, you may lose some friends or mislabeled and taunted as an ignorant bigot. Yes, Kinship charts could be deemed offensive, depending on the social setting.

We can let people know the joys and needs of biological kinship, despite whatever Hollywood or markets researchers preach to their audience. Massachusetts and the U.S. Government still cares about biological kinship, but due to current legal restraints we can't reference it to marriage. But "marriage" matters, funny now I'm using it in quotation marks.

Fathers are equally important as mothers, an understanding the majority of Americans still believe. If they didn't believe this, there wouldn't be a show called Paternity Court. Biological kinship matters, in the same old fashion antiquated way we use to say marriage matters. But when say "marriage is obvious", we have to remember it isn't. "Marriage" isn't obvious. Too many do not trust or believe in the institution. That's a real problem.

Marriage is at its lowest rates, and public policy is in a conondrum on what to do about. Hard to believe that the government actually cares, considering what is being done to marriage in our federal courts and attorney generals are refusing to enforce their state's laws. But it does, I'm serious it does.

“Fatherhood Initiatives:
Connecting Fathers to Their Children
Carmen Solomon-Fears
Specialist in Social Policy
January 28, 2014″

See the date and year? It says, 2014. This year. Last month!
"In 2013, almost 25% of families with children (under age 18) were maintained by mothers. In 2013, 32% of the 35.0 million families with children (under age 18) were maintained by one parent;1 this figure is up from 10% in 1970. Most of the children in these single-parent families were being raised by their mothers; in 2013, 77% of single-parent families were mother-only families and 23% were father-only families.2 According to some estimates, about 60% of children born during the 1990s spent a significant portion of their childhood in a home without their biological father. Research indicates that children raised in single-parent families are more likely than children raised in two-parent families (with both biological parents) to do poorly in school, have emotional and behavioral problems, become teenage parents, and have poverty-level incomes as adults.3 Nonetheless, it is widely acknowledged that most of these mothers, despite the added stress of being a single parent, do a good job raising their children. That is, although children with absent fathers are at greater risk of having the aforementioned problems, most do not experience them. In hopes of improving the long-term outlook for children in single-parent families, federal, state, and local governments, along with public and private organizations, are supporting programs and activities that promote the financial and personal responsibility of noncustodial fathers to their children and reduce the incidence of father absence in the lives of children.
Compelling state interest right? Yes.

A change in our marriage biological kinship culture will not happen overnight, any real change will happen over generations. Write to your elected officials, even the really liberal progressive ones that disagree with you on marriage. I wrote to Senator Elizabeth Warren citing articles like this one and received a positive response.

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