Monday, December 30, 2013

Wish this was short enough to tweet.

An Althouse comment.

“My neighbor gets to vote on MY tax rate, my son being sent off to war, whether I have to wear a helmet while on a motorcycle, and don’t even get me started on what my neighbors can vote on when it comes to my business’s operations.”

Used in a response over at Alexandria

I can’t say what my neighbor does with his penis, as he inpregnants several women over the course of two decades and just move on each time. But I find it odd I can’t create public policy to specifically address this issue to encourage men and women in monogamous behavior and to fully support their family.

The conversation over why the government has an interest in marriage is over there.

Marriage in a ‘social capital’ context is the insurance a man won’t bail, when you get pregnant even with an unplanned pregnancy.

That is when men typically bail in a non-married situation. Sure some married men bail, but you won’t get far and you are easier to track down.

Romantic love gets you bed, but it a different type of love to deal with the stresses of children together.

Friday, December 20, 2013

Political Zombies

That is what it feels like, currently. It feels like I'm dealing with zombies.

I've been online posting my thoughts for a long time in one fashion on another, but I feel differently. I still speak up, but the consequences I fear are too far reaching then just disagreements. There is no 'conversation' anymore, there is no exchange of ideas or finding common ground. It is a seek-and-destroy mission, blindly going after anyone who questions authority.

Conversation on Facebook...

Me:
"Wonders if DaVinci's "The Copulation" would be too hetero normative since it depicts penal/vagina intercourse in all of its mystery at the time. Or how research actually do MRIs of male/female in the act to study the evolutionary design of the penis which in our species very unique. I don't believe in criminalizing anal sex, but the act defies basic function of the human organ(both digestive and reproductive) I've been told in health education that anal sex is normal, that was over 20 years ago. I reject that premise. It isn't normal. It goes against the design and function on the body and health-wise creates an easy transmission for viruses."
The Other Person:
"If you want to live in an anal-sex free wonderland where everyone conforms to stereotype and asshats like Alan are given over to demonstrably idiotic ravings, well, welcome to Rob's GOP!" "Oh, very grateful that you aren't interested in criminalizing what two consenting adults do with thier bodies. Very libertarian of you.Seriously, though, it's much better than Rob's unmarried friends who devote their lives to telling us married folks what marriage is all about and need THEIR ideas of what's normal to be state policy.As for what a duck hunter finds "sinful," could anything be less relevant?"
The other person is a Christian, on his Town's Democratic Commitee, and a student in law school. This is how he engaged with me in a conversation. God, help us.
Me:
Consider Sen. Barack Obama's proposed bill on Healthy Marriage and Responsible Fatherhood back in 07. Or Professor Elizabeth Warren's 'Two Income Trap' in 2004, a whole book in regards to women balancing the economics of career and children. Or PBS Frontline episode in 2002 about the decline of marriage and the devastating effects on children. Or in Howard Law School's Journal back in 2006,
Me:
I cited liberal support for opposite sex marriage, I do not know what has happened to the Democrats in the past 5 years. All you have done was rant like an absolute lunatic using profanities. The Democrat Party is nothing but fascism now, they have control over their members with strings like marionettes. I know what the REAL Barack Obama once believed and I know what the REAL Elizabeth Warren once believed as well. These people are just zombies of their former selves.

Friday, December 13, 2013

7QT How to really deal with bullies...

More Seven Quick Takes at Jennifer's Conversion Diary

1. Media sob stories and how to really handle conflict without viral/national publicity

Kids can be mean. As adults, we educate them in a merciful and forgiving manner the better way to handle their actions and to move on. This whole rally for Danny and his Band of Brothers has been going on for over a month in the media. It doesn't require a week long vacation in Hollywood to be on a TV to correct the situation.

Last week some kids were not being nice to one of my older kids. When it happened, I contacted the principal. They were informed about how they made the other person felt. That principal handled it privately with the parties involved without the whole middle school or nation needing to know.

My child didn’t want the kids to be ‘punished’ and my child didn’t want friends to ‘rally’ or be on TV, but my child just wanted to them realize how much it hurt and to stop. And that happened.

2. Colors, context, and causes…
It’s like the guy who wears a yellow Bruins Jersey at a Red Sox game, people would think you’re a vendor selling hot dogs. Out of context!

3. The difference between Capitol Punishment and Capital Punishement.
Why are we harsher against buildings that hold government officials like the State House compared to a public library that holds books.

4. I didn't know unicorns could lay eggs. Interesting Craig's List posting.

5. Richard W. Bray is funny!
One day I was supervising the sandbox during free play when a three-year-old boy smacked another kid over the head with a toy firetruck.
“Cut that out,” I insisted.
The offending child immediately stopped assaulting his playmate. He turned towards me and gave me a stern glare.
“Cut that out is not nice, ” He instructed severely. “We don’t use words like the at the Child Education Center.”
I was taken aback by the rebuke, but I sensibly resisted the nearly overwhelming impulse to say, “Listen pal, we put people in jail for things like that.”

6. The effects of incarcerated dads matters if the father was living with his children to begin with.
The researchers found negative and pronounced effects of incarceration on fathers' engagement with children and co-parenting with children's mothers, but only when fathers were living with their children prior to incarceration. When fathers weren't living with their children prior to their stint behind bars, their incarceration had no effect on how they interacted with their children during or after release.

7. Not sure if I can congratulate Pope Francis being the Person of The Year, when he was being compared to Miley Cyrus? When I did the image search for "Time Person of the Year 2013" , I received more Miley images then Pope images.

Thursday, December 12, 2013

Media sob stories and how to really handle conflict without viral/national publicity

Media sob stories and how to really handle conflict without viral/national publicity over at Alexandria

The kids who were mean didn’t learn anything, the kids just learned ADULTS and the MEDIA RETALIATES with grand public shaming if you made a mistake. Their public shaming has become heart warming entertainment for the nation, as we all rally and feel pity for something we really shouldn’t be involved with.

Monday, December 9, 2013

Colors, context, and causes...

Colors, context, and causes... over at Alexandria.

It’s like the guy who wears a yellow Bruins Jersey at a Red Sox game, people would think you’re a vendor selling hot dogs. Out of context!

Friday, December 6, 2013

7QT Origins of Eloping

More Seven Quick Takes at Jen's Conversion Diary

Mine below

1. Eloping is not the answer, but so tempting. We need to destroy the wedding industry and everyone is OK with a backyard/home reception. Don't elope, it isn't necessary to run away. The discussion is here over at Alexandria.

2. Why I fear the Massachusetts Democratic Party?
The more we spend on low-income (unmarried/single parents) the more the gap will grow. We are indirectly pushing fathers out. Children of married parents tend to marry, children of unmarried/divorce tend to be unmarried/divorce. Unless we can significantly change family structure in low income families, these families will always tread water and never get ahead.
I could write one on the Republican Party, as well. But this is about this avoidance on the issue of fatherless.

3. Media sob stories and lying copy-cat attention whores
To this day I was really appreciative that one of the guidance councilors just pulling me aside privately for a minute in her office, just asking how I felt. I was OK, but for some reason looking back this really mattered.
Go to the link to talk about my odd emotion of jealously in high school.

4. I wasn't shocked by the vandalism in Brighton, young people in the secular world are taught to despise and mock Catholicism.
"Heavy custom doors were damaged, fire extinguishers were discharged inside, an oil painting of Pope John the 23rd was cut and defaced with curse words and stars during the spree. In the choir loft, a bottle of wine was discovered on the keyboard and potato chips littered the floor. A pipe from the Church Organ was broken and left in the loft."
Their immaturity in their vandalism shows more ignorance then hate. But where are they learning such ignorance, to the point they feel nothing destroying an oil painting and and a church organ? How as a community as a whole, did we fail them?

5. Dads: How Important Are They? New Research Highlights Value of Fathers in Both Neurobiology and Behavior of Offspring
"This is the first time research findings have shown that paternal deprivation during development affects the neurobiology of the offspring," says Dr. Gobbi. These results should incite researchers to look more deeply into the role of fathers during critical stages of growth and suggest that both parents are important in children's mental health development.
And to think the Church's teachings on marriage is somehow irrational and without reason for the past two millennia?

6. Pope Benedict XVI was 'a commie' too.
Pope Benedict observes that too many economic actors were making decisions “based on very short-term thinking.” They lacked a commitment to “long-term consideration of the common good,” and by pursuing short-term gain in financial markets, they undermined the market itself. For this reason, markets, and financial institutions must be appropriately regulated for the common good."

7. Happy Saint Nicholas Day!



Wednesday, December 4, 2013

Why I truly fear the Massachusetts Democratic Party?

*I could easily write a post on why I fear Republicans, but please consider I live in Massachusetts I was raised as 'a Democrat' and in the past have voted and supported Democrats. I support many social programs at a state level, and consider myself a fiscal moderate.
Rob Eno of Red Mass Group tweeted a blog post from the Massachusetts Democratic Party in which they called out Karen Polito as an extremist, along with Allen West. Specifically they were extreme in their views on marriage public policy, in noting that marriage as a matter of public policy should be a man and a woman to ensure that children are raised by both biological parents in a financially stable and emotionally healthy home, and benefit from this social capital that can not be replaced by any government program..

While many Democrats who I engage with may think of me as a dinosaur, backwards in thinking, and 'on the wrong side of history' can NOT ignore the inequality that occurs in fatherless homes. It's an inequality that has to be address, if would want a fair chance for every child, we must NOT deny the child's right to be raised by both their mother and father. Over and over again we see this inequality, a year ago Reuters took a good look at Massachusetts and saw in ever widening gap between those with and without a fathers.

From Reuters "Massachusetts, home to America's best schools and best-educated workforce, has seen income inequality soar. Why? The poor are losing an academic arms race with the rich."

They make note of the family structure and poverty.
70 percent of Massachusetts families with children in the bottom fifth are headed by a single parent - compared with 7 percent in the top fifth. "All the evidence shows that children born to two highly educated, high-income people tend to obtain the highest level of academic achievement," said Sum. "At the bottom, where the mom is not that well-educated and tends to have lower income, children tend to do worse."
Of course initially, the research just said 'two parents', but the researcher slipped and said, mom and referenced the child was without a father.

Their solution
The solution to erasing the achievement gap involves, in essence, providing low-income students with the advantages their wealthier peers enjoy: pre-school at the age of three, tutors, summer camps, and after-school activities like sports and music lessons. Schools could contract with outside organizations to provide those activities, or lengthen their school day or school year by one-third.
No mention of increasing the marriage rates within lower income families to pool their social captial, and giving children greater access to their paternal kin. I've always made it clear that this is not about forcing people to marry or demanding a 100% marriage rate, it isn't too hard to ask to cut the fatherless rate in half. If we have a neighborhood in Lowell in which only 30% of children live with their biological fathers, how about increasing up to 60%.

We are giving low-income families the the financial incentive NOT to marry, it doesn't pay to marry because if you are a single parent you QUALIFY for almost everything. If the father doesn't live with the child, the mother is considered a single parent and qualifies for subsidies she otherwise wouldn't if married. Indirectly, I truly believe our social policies are encouraging this widening gap.

The more we spend on low-income (unmarried/single parents) the more the gap will grow. We are indirectly pushing fathers out. Children of married parents tend to marry, children of unmarried/divorce tend to be unmarried/divorce. Unless we can significantly change family structure in low income families, these families will always tread water and never get ahead. Divorce and single parenting happens, but I know children in which NO ONE is married in their family. Everyone in their family (parents/uncles/aunts/grandparents) is a single or divorced. How can a child succeed in such a fractured environment?

This is our class divide. When mom and dad are married, social capital is re-enforced for the child. When unmarried social capital gets weakened. All the social spending on enrichment programs in the world will NEVER solve the problem. The child needs LOVE and the state can't provide LOVE.

The Commonwealth of Massachusetts in a very objective manner understands the clear obligations that parents have to their children. Which is why we have affidavits of paternity/DNA testing, and take the father's paycheck and transfer it on a debit card for the mother in the form of child support payments. Yes, we've turn men into merely instruments of money, and not loving and emotional caring fathers in many cases for low-income families. That's why 'men have gone on stike', when it comes to marriage.
“The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” – John Wooden
Who could disagree such a concept?
The Massachusetts Democratic Party, that's who.

For all I know many elected officials within the Democratic Party may agree with me, but could never actually acknowledge as marriage. It's politics, it's corrupt. It's not about good public policy, but rich lobbyists and their apparent hatred of the idea that children should be raised by their mother and father as one socio-economic unit.

All I know is that you better not get in their way, or they we defame your character as an irrational extremist. This doesn't not mean I will automatically vote Republican or love the GOP, what this means is that I am very aware of the shift of values within the Democratic party, and fearful of the political power behind the Democratic Party. This is not the Democratic Party I once knew, this political group has been taken over and masquerading as something it is not.
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Here's a bonus! From another blog.
My personal experience, though, as a Catholic, who is also a homosexual, speaks louder than any document ever could. In the four and a half years since I voluntarily became a Roman Catholic I have never had a single priest treat me as less human than another Catholic because of my sexuality. I have never heard a homily where the priest said that homosexuals, or anyone else for that matter, were not human due to the inclinations of their hearts. I have been showered with words of encouragement in the confessional and have had the undying love and support of Catholic friends as I have shared this intimate part of my life with them.
Please share this letter with those looking for encouragement or who wrongly accuse the Church of fictional beliefs.
That's right the Catholic Church loves gay people! I'm really annoyed of Democratic activists essentially lying, but I have to remember that they may never of heard the truth. For all I know, they really believe it. And that is sadly why I wasn't shocked by the vandalism in Brighton, young people in the secular world are taught to despise and mock Catholicism. Their immaturity in their vandalism shows more ignorance then hate. But where are they learning such ignorance, to the point they feel nothing destroying an oil painting and and a church organ? How as a community as a whole, did we fail them?