Friday, July 26, 2013

7QT Random links

7QT over at Jen's Conversion Diary

1. We can't value marriage, because it discriminates against non-married couples. Well that is what law maker in the UK argue. That what laws do, they make distinctions (discrimate). Well that's what words do as well, they make distinctions between different type of relationships and their obligations.

2. My obligatory NFP awareness week post over at Alexandria.

Because our reliance on contraception is much like our dependence on oil. We all want to be 100% clean energy and reduce our carbon foot prints, actually getting to that goal can not be done over night. It’s a long journey. -Renee Aste

3. Anthony Weiner post over at Alexandria as well, a good conversation about the saturation of adult material in our culture. We talk about the double standard with 50 Shades of Grey.

4. I'm hooked on Breaking Pointe on the CW.

5. Priest Carjacked In Front Of Wilmington Church (Delaware)

The priest moved his SUV in order to open up the church’s food pantry for the neighborhood. Apparently, that was the opportunity the armed suspect waited for to strike

6. Do’s and don’ts of sharing NFP. I have a hard time NOT saying cervical mucus. Sorry. I know it is a don't.

7."Don't Bother Me! I'm PRAYING!" (and other non sequiturs) From Boston's Lady in the Pew.

Saint Kateri

We can't value marriage, because it discriminates against non-married couples.

Makes sense right?

Why have laws, because laws discriminate. That what laws do, they make distinctions. Well that what words do as well, they make distinctions between different type of relationships and their obligations.

Visit the fatherless streets I grew up on, Clegg told From the UK

A recent announcement from Downing Street that a tax break for married couples will be published in the Autumn was met with criticism from Mr Clegg, who said it was unfair on people who choose not to marry.

But Selina Gray said he would change his mind if he visited the estate on which she grew up, and “would learn that the idea of a tax-break for married couples is something that benefits all of us by sending a message that society values the family and the commitment, stability and self-sacrifice that goes with it”.

Last month, The Centre for Social Justice, an independent think-tank, released a report which showed that at least one million children are growing up without a father in the UK, and that the number of lone-parent families is increasing by 20,000 every year.

No you are still their dad. Sorry, you can't change that.

Book Talk: A parenting journey as father-turned-mother
Author Jennifer Finney Boylan says there is more to being a mother than giving birth and in her newest book, "Stuck in the Middle with You," she chronicles her transgender journey from being a father to a mother.
I actually have a lot of sympathy for transgender, I struggle at time but I try to act in good faith someone is trying to correct something with their body they genuinely feel is incorrect. You may change into a physical appearance woman on the outside and to some extent on the inside, but your obligation is to be a father to your children NEVER CHANGES.

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Dr. Steve Perry Explains Why Many Fatherless Sons Join Gangs


"They don't know what to do with [the anger]," Dr. Perry says. "Every kid I've ever worked with who's been in a gang said they joined a gang for one reason. It's not protection. It's love." "Because... they're looking outside to find out how to be and what to do," Oprah suggests, referencing sons who don't have fathers to model their behavior after. Seeking outside role models and love is not uncommon among fatherless children. "When you don't love yourself, what you tend to do is look for someone else to validate you," Dr. Perry explains.

It takes a lot to openly say you are sorry

FAR LEFT TX ACTIVIST Apologizes for Smearing Pro-Zimmerman Group With Hateful Racist Sign Renee Vaughan says she doesn’t want to foment hate.
I did a really stupid thing this weekend, and I apologize with all of my being. No matter who I agree or disagree with, I don’t want to foment hate. I my haste, I did exactly that. Had I thought before I put a bad message out to the world, I wouldn’t have hurt, angered and embarrassed so many people. I pray for forgiveness, and to never, ever be that stupid again. Those who know me know that I want a better world for everyone. I hope you can forgive me, World.
We've all done things that were stupid in our lifetime and thoughtless. Lesson for all.

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Natural Family Planning Awareness Week (July 21-27)

Because our reliance on contraception is much like our dependence on oil. We all want to be 100% clean energy and reduce our carbon foot prints, actually getting to that goal can not be done over night. It’s a long journey. -Renee Aste

Friday, July 19, 2013

7QT On the Radio talking NFP

7QT Over at Jen's Conversion Diary

1. I was on the radio last Sunday talking about Natural Family Planning with Paul Murano. We talked on the effects on the Environment, Women Health, and Demography experienced at a personal level. I speak more in the second half, but the first half with Barbara (an NFP teacher) was great. On the SECOND hour at the 46:16 mark is a good place to jump to if you only had a few minutes. It is mostly me.

2. We are in a heat wave. In Lowell that means crime goes up. I did the broadcast on Sunday night, after there was three shootings in Lowell on Saturday in the city.

3. At WCAP 980 Lowell it is like a moment stood still in time, the office has not been remodeled in DECADES. Very cool, all the radio equipment has been transferred to digital but much of the older equipment is hanging around.

4. I was on Paul Murano's show, a graduate of Boston College and a Professor at some of the local colleges. I was nervous, never being on radio before in this manner. I didn't freeze or get shaky in my voice, but if you have another informative guest on with you this makes conversation so much easier!

5. Barbara Donovan was awesome, as an NFP teacher she had a three ring binder with hundreds of references of studies/facts about NFP. For instance I brought up Japan's low fertility and the effects of elder care, she had a cite within her book she wanted to make known. There was also lots of discussion on how men respond to women on the Pill.

6. I do worry that I brought my personal life on the radio. I mentioned sexual partners prior to my husband, and I reference my own family growing up. For instance I have cousins, who have many siblings and I found great joy in that even though I was a generation younger. I also talked about the contraception mentality with my parents. This is what you can listen to in the 46:16 mark in the second hour.

7. My parents are not religious, but they are more open to NFP. One of the odd/normal things my mom once said to me as an adult in causal conversation, 'Be glad you are a wanted child.' I knew what my mother meant, but yet? 'Mom, what if I wasn't 'wanted' would you still love me?'Awkward. I would hope and I believe that yes my parents would love me even if I wasn't planned/intended.

Thursday, July 18, 2013

On the radio discussing Natural Family Planning

I was on the radio last Sunday talking about Natural Family Planning with Paul Murano. We talked on the effects on the Environment, Women Health, and Demography experienced at a personal level. I speak more in the second half, but the first half with Barbara (an NFP teacher) was great. On the SECOND hour at the 46:16 mark is a good place to jump to if you only had a few minutes. It is mostly me.

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

So happy I didn't hit publish!

I had a post ready, but I wanted to fact check. Let's just say I'm happy I did. Yikes, I was totally reading something the wrong way. Bit by bit I had all the pieces but never put it together. Then all of a sudden I put two and two together.

Never trust Wikipedia as your ONLY SOURCE, it doesn't tell the whole story. Wait don't trust it as your initial source! You shouldn't write a blog post solely on that source for fact checking. I can't believe students write papers that way!!!

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

When the law gets it right on gay parenting. (Europe)

For all of the criticism and name calling I have and will get on the issue of family, I find it sadly ironic that people do not understand that I'm not against a gay parent. In fact I fully support parental rights, no matter the sexual orientation of the parent. My disagreement is denying the other biological parent. A parent who happens to be gay, is not the SAME as two people of the same sex denying the other biological parent.

From Europe in the ‘federal courts’, I assume European Union.

It ruled on Wednesday in favour of a gay man who had given a sperm donation to a lesbian couple so they could have a baby. But when the couple then named another man as legal father of the child, the biological father decided to challenge this. He says he now wants to be acknowledged as the father. The court in Karlsruhe said the man had the right to challenge the legal paternity of the other man. It would have been different if the biological father had in advance signed away his right to challenge a legally-awarded paternity – which is the case with anonymous sperm donors.

Only if we could ban anonymous sperm/egg donation…. Only if so we wouldn't screw with children’s lives. The question isn’t your sexual orientation, the issue is ‘are you the biological parent’.

Individuals have equal rights to BOTH their mother and father, even if they are gay. Why in humanity's name am I being labeled homophobic or a bigot? Ask the special interests and their lobby's I guess.

What a mess, happy to see the courts find in favor of the father.

Renee Aste, Lowell Massachusetts

Friday, July 12, 2013

7QT Follow up on Pop-tarts, free cell phones

Join Jen at Conversion Diary for 7QT Follow up on the Pop-tarts is #7 below.

1. I don’t need a free cell phone. First it was the pop-tarts, now it is the free cell phone.

Walked out of the Department of Children and Families (I volunteer here), and a man with an Assurance shirt ask me nicely if I needed a free cell phone. I said no. Then he asked if I was on food stamps or MassHealth I don’t have a problem with subsidized/free phones. I have a problem with the MARKETING of this.
People find out about food stamps and Masshealth without the need of marketing, if they have a need they will seek out help. Public service announcements is different then recruitment, which isn't allowed. Community resources are NOT A SALES GUY approaching random people on the sidewalk.

2. Do you check in on your parents? Are you obligated to? New law requires Chinese to visit their elderly parents as country struggles to care for aging population – National Post

3. Lynne is my 180. Lynne and I are exact opposite, despite being the same age, same education achievement, and same childhood backgrounds.

OK I admit it, I cried over the Facebook thread. Not out of anger or even at a personal level, just frustrated that post-modernism is so apart of main-stream culture and values that even suggesting anything has structure when it comes to human sexuality to dismissed with laughter.

I'm not faulting my neighbor, simply we could be talking science and yet when it comes to human sexuality science doesn't apply. The idea that a penis is designed by nature to ejaculate into a vagina was mocked. Or that a mother and father are equally important.

4. ABOVE THE LAW sides with pro-life arguments. Wendy’s Wasted Voice: Why Fighting the Texas Abortion Bill Was Not ‘Pro-Woman’

Wendy Davis opposed a bill that gives women seeking abortions the same level of safety as women seeking LASIK on a Friday afternoon. Should I have feel empowered as a Texas woman that I can currently get a D&E for an unplanned pregnancy at a place with lower standards than where I could get a endoscopy for an acid reflux diagnosis? What is so “pro-woman” about lower health and safety standards for abortions?
I think a part of hell froze over.

5. Vermont wants less people.

6. Vermont complains when young adults leave and have children else where.

7. Follow up on the Poptarts. On Thursday, the free lunch program served chocolate muffins.

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Lynne is my 180.

Lynne and I had a conversation on Facebook. The reality is, I could be Lynne. I was pretty progressive in high school and conflicted, because I was also drawn to Catholicism.

She never truly angers me. Never. I can see her views of equality thought out step to step would mean there is no difference between homosexual behavior and heterosexual behavior, or abortion is a necessary right no matter if it is a health pregnancy or state of development of the fetus.

Am I against equality? No. But the steps to justice are different. I note true difference and address them out of justice. I see homosexual behavior and heterosexual different, because of the procreative factor not because I dislike people who are gay. This does no mean I do not want to address real concerns of gay people, simply they can not conflict with the rights of children.

I see the human rights in the unborn, because they are equally human even if they are need to be within the womb of the mother until full development.

Friday, July 5, 2013

7QT PopTarts paid by the Government

7QT PopTarts from the Government

1. Over at Alexandria. My youngest child is having some extra speech services, twice a week this summer. Our city schools qualify in the summer to have the cafeterias open for anyone under 18 to get a free breakfast or lunch, depending on the neighborhood.

I figured we should take advantage of the program since the other three children were in the school waiting. All that was offered was a choice of pre-frozen apple juice or fruit punch, a package of Pop-tarts, and a choice of white milk and chocolate milk.

2. I was glad to of helped out with Catholic All Year's FB post on marriage. She would like more conversation on her breastfeeding in public post.

3. Reality doesn’t fit into my Facebook Profile.

4. Marriage is not friendship, and the lost ritual of dating.

5. Neighborhood Residents With Lowest Incomes Most Likely to Care About Their Communities

"One possibility is that, because these individuals had such low incomes, they were more likely to stay in the same area for a long time," Yu said. "Low-income residents might lack the resources to move to other communities, whereas their neighbors with relatively higher incomes might be more able to move to better neighborhoods with safer environments."

6. I don't think we will ever go on vacation again, no matter where we go we now have to book two hotel rooms.

7. It's time to get a pool.