Saturday, March 30, 2013

Corporations Don't Love You or Care, and Progressive Liberalism is as Dead as Social Conservatism

The purpose of the corporation, as an entity, is to make profit. It doesn't care about you, that is not the entity's duty to do so. But we live in a world, in which we idolize name brands. As expressed well over a decade ago, was a PBS Frontline episode of "Merchants of Cool".

"In today's media-saturated environment, such questions, it seems, are becoming increasingly difficult to answer.... Therein lies the danger of today's teen-driven economy, observers say: As everyone from record promoters to TV executives to movie producers besieges today's teens with pseudo-authentic marketing pitches, teenagers increasingly look to the media to provide them with a ready-made identity predicated on today's version of what's cool. Rather than empowering youngsters, the incessant focus on their wants and desires leaves them adrift in a sea of conflicting marketing messages."
While the media giants named are very much outdated, this is how the media works. Think Clear Channel's monopoly on the radio or Disney/Nickelodeon. We like to think that name brands, and the corporations behind them actually care about us. It's family that loves us, not the government and not the corporations. We let corporations tell us, who we are.

Back in the 90s, I feel old stating this in the same manner my parents speak of the 60s. But back in the 90s, I wasn't necessarily anti-capitalist, but like many of my well-minded progressives we realize that corporations need someone to answer to, so they do not become dominate and control. The balance we're the government and the people (unions). Unions are becoming non-existent in the private sector. Progressiveness didn't feel like answering to a need, but either jealous socialist professors who wanted the power themselves or anarchists who didn't really give a sh!t and just wanted to destroy infrastructure.

So in the time of corporate social media, someone posted a list of corporations that endorsed same-sex marriage. Why are businesses in this manner? I don't know. But it is a key to branding I assume, and many of the names listed were now corporations, but name bands. For instance, Gap, Banana Republic, and Old Navy are all one company. And Amazon who never got involved in politics or even charity, were shaken down to financially support same-sex marriage in Washington State. Oreo isn't a company, it is a brand of cookie. Again it is own by Nabisco, that's the corporation. Corporations do not care about fatherless children or broken homes, they justdon't care. That is not their job. Their objective is to sell you a product.

Meanwhile, while the Supreme Court was hearing arguments on marriage related issues, President Obama signed into law the Monsanto Protection Act.

FB POST by Person: While everyone was distracted by the gay marriage debate, Obama signed the Monsanto Protection Act. Bon appetite! ME:Remember being Good Friday, strawberries are OK because they have salmon DNA.Person 2:Where is the liberal outrage over this bill? Hmmm. Me: Somewhere in the late 90s, that's where. Original FB Post Person: I'd say Monsanto is the greatest evil of our time right now. It's subjective though & I understand that. This only hurts the people who are struggling financially right now....those working class & poor the administration claims they care about. Eating clean without GMOs is more expensive and takes more time, independent thinking & research. What we consume is a much larger issue than the other petty stuff the government has people fighting each other about. So much for the First Lady being genuinely health conscious. Posers. Me:GMOs can not be undone, they are apart of the ecosystem. The concerns I have will eventually be address, one way or another under a different name other then marriage I guess.
People claim that the government and schools want to indoctrinate children, I question that. It is corporations, that are indoctrinating.

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Where's the childless couple? Or the family with more then one child?

First off businesses have every right to speak even on political concerns, but I was slightly weirded out when a local business was posting facebook memes in regards to marriage online under their business account. But then again businesses always have signs for politicians as well. So I will will not pass judgement on that place of business.

This photo had the caption, "Every family is equal."

But it isn't, just by the images and what it is expressing it is trying to convey that a child without his/her mother or father is just fine and dandy. It is stating that the child has not suffered any lost or grief over a lost parent. At least in Batman, you know his parents were murdered. We shouldn't joke that Batman is somehow not affected that his parents are dead. Being orphaned is the same as having two living parents? Otherwise, as a woman I wear pants most of of the time. Even to the Ballet! The image of a man wearing no skirt and a woman wearing one, even on bathroom doors is a little outdated.

Images of Interest from Facebook on discussing Marriage

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

The Fall Out of Moral Relativism

Me:

Upset how many people tried to leave before and during the final bow at a professional ballet performance.

Response 1:

awww...no manners .

Me:

Well it isn't just church they do this.

Response 2:

people are so self-absorbed...

Response 3:

So you have a narrow, bigoted view of "end", do you?

It's everywhere.

Good Conversation over at the Right Side of Lowell

Sunday, March 24, 2013

The second best reason to see the Boston Ballet!

First obviously for the the Ballet, but second for the volunteers. These people are amazing! I love how there was a lady in the women's bathroom calling out which numbered stall was available to move the line. Each bathroom stall was numbered, and as one women left she called it for the next available person. No stressing out at intermission!

We saw Sleeping Beauty, at the Boston Opera House.

Friday, March 22, 2013

7QT The glue that sticks it together.

Join Seven Quick Takes Friday with Jen at the Conversion Diary

1. There seems to be a lot of commentary on the other marriage issue which was children having a mom and dad. Now? Better late then never. Right? I mean if we have to rebuild and frame the issue, might as well wait until that marriage as a whole is mere rubble and nothing can be salvaged from the mess, except for our lessons learned.

2. The rational scientific reasoning is there, even if you're not religious. "Why Dads Matter From Science Live"

Hormonal studies have revealed that dads show increased levels of oxytocin during the first weeks of their babies' lives. This hormone, sometimes called the "love hormone," increases feelings of bonding among groups. Dads get oxytocin boosts by playing with their babies, according to a 2010 study published in the journal Biological Psychiatry.

Fatherhood also leads to declines in testosterone, the "macho" hormone associated with aggressive behavior, according to research published last year in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. This change is stronger the more involved a dad is with his baby's care, suggesting that it may reduce a man's risk-taking drive and encourage nurturing and domesticity.

3.The Importance of Fathers from the University of Colorado

When fathers are present, they provide economic support for their children and assume emotional and caregiving responsibilities. Well-fathered children are shown to be more emotionally intelligent and socially successful as adults. When fathers are absent, their absence may negatively impact children's academic achievement, gender-specific development, general behavioral adjustment and anger management, especially in males.

4. But men do not get pregnant, they do not give birth, and they can not breast feed. They are not physically attached to their children in the same way mothers are. It takes a bit more effort and support to encourage a man to stick around. The glue is love for the woman, who is the mother of his children. If he didn't love her, then why did he have sex with her? Oh wait, the conjugal act isn't even about the fullest expression of love. Sexuality is something for fun, when your'e horny and bored. Pardon me, being so medieval and backwards for having such dumb*ss view that we should equate sex with babies and love. Again excuse me.

5. Sorry for being flippantly obnoxious in 4. But this is why we had marriage. We need the glue to make it stick together. Our government isn't holding up its end of the bargain, and instead of being the cohesive it's doing the opposite.

6. A child has a mother and father and it isn't helping anyone to pretend to ignore it. It feels incredible unpopular to hold this view. Sometimes I worry about the social taboo, someone has to say it even if my head one day may end up on a platter. (local reference all in the good spirit of blogging) This isn't about law vs. religion, this is humans trying to fool nature. Nature will win. Defeat is ugly for humanity, as we see the mess of adult children from divorce and without fathers confused and very much hopeless. Reasonably they avoid not only religious but legal marriage.

7. Avoiding marriage, while understandable doesn't help. No Divorce Is the New Divorce: Moms and Dads Navigate Messy Breakups in Marriage-less World

Marriage rates in the United States are at record lows. And when more than half of children born to women under the age of 30 have unwed parents, according to Child Trends, a nonpartisan research center on children and youth issues, more and more couples are finding themselves in such relationship limbo. As Richard Fry wrote in an article on the Pew Research Center website, “Marriage increasingly is being replaced by cohabitation, single-person households and other adult living arrangements.” And with kids in the picture, breaking up has become that much messier.

Friday, March 15, 2013

7QT Friday

Seven Quick Takes Friday hosted by Conversion Diary

1. I volunteer with the Department of Children & Families in their Foster Care Review Unit here in Lowell. It has been incredibly rewarding to see children and parents in need get the love and support they desperately need. At DCF, because of many legal issues concerning the rights of children and their parents, it is best that a state agency handle these issues while charity can support many of the families needs, whether it being supporting biological parents with services, fostering, or donating items that many children may need.

2. In Foster Care Review, a meeting takes place every six months to address the needs of the child and the permanent goal for the family. The majority of the cases I see are not physical/sexual abuse, rather substance abuse or mental health issues in which parents are incapable of doing the day to day functions of caring for their children. (I will discuss this in a later posting) There will be determinations made based on who is and isn't fulfilling their responsibilities to the child, and well as progress to the goals.

3. Working with DCF, it is about the children and not the adults. For instance, the goal of adoption isn't about an infertile or gay couple rights to have a child. The state is not an adoption agency, there are NO FEES to adopt children with DCF. When money is exchanged with the expectation for a child, then the lines begin to become undefined that you are 'buying a child'.

4. This is an strange contradictions/paradox we fail to grasp, for instance one may say a mother and father should be together for the sake of the children. Current scientific social data and evolution can trace back that sexual monogamy between a male and female and the combining of domestic/economic resources benefit their children. Marriage was really about being open to the needs and obligations of children, but yet the foundation of that idea can only exist if there is love between a husband and wife first. If the husband and wife do not willingly love one another and give to one another completely, then they can not fully come together for the full benefit of the children.

5. Children are human beings too, so we should treat them like that as a matter of law. We prepare for parenthood out of a child's needs, not from our personal goals. Sure there are legal responsibilities and the obligation to clothed, fed, and educated, but we all know children want to be loved by their mother and father without any conflict between them. Can't legislate the emotional aspect of family, the laws can only deal with objective it is up to our culture to fill in that gap. Our culture dictates our laws and with the change of culture can be found against the needs of children, we have seen the changes in our marriage laws that define family as a matter of personal fulfillment.

6. Children and their social workers are trying to meet their needs. Children have only lost their biological family in the sense their parents can not parent (drugs addiction/incarceration), that doesn't mean they lose the right to have a relationship with their parents/siblings/relatives. Even when papers make them legally apart of another family, nature is there and present. WHEN IT COMES ADOPTION THE CHILD CHOOSES YOU, AND YOU ONLY GET CHOSEN IF YOU CAN MEET THE CHILD'S NEEDS. YOU MEET THEM ON THEIR CONDITIONS, NOT YOURS. THE FLIP SIDE IS THE HORRIFIC FERTILITY INDUSTRY, THAT PROFITS ON DESIGNER MADE CHILDREN THAT CAN BE DISPOSED OF BY CONTRACT IF DEFECTED.

7. We talk about rights as if there are no obligation or duty held to any one else. Rights were always balanced with obligation, but when it comes to family we no longer hold anyone accountable or responsible for their domestic behavior. To infer we have social obligations to children to be raised and loved by their mother and father and legally support that ideal is now seen as legal assault on one's personal individual liberties.

DCF is my little place of sanity, where law meets reality.

Monday, March 11, 2013

Finding sacrificial love in the strangest of places.

Two weeks ago, I posted on a married bisexual man, who pushed for an open marriage. I was deeply concerned that he placed much of his unhappiness on his own children, and his needs weren't being met. My response was... Love your wife and children with all your heart and mind, that's all I'm saying. That means, when your mind is tempted refocus on them and why you love them..

Then came, I'm Gay and I Oppose Same-Sex Marriage by Doug Mainwaring

Because of my predilections, we deny our own sexual impulses. Has this led to depressing, claustrophobic repression? No. We enjoy each other’s company immensely. It has actually led to psychological health and a flourishing of our family. Did we do this for the sake of tradition? For the sake of religion? No. We did it because reason led us to resist selfish impulses and to seek the best for our children....

Two men or two women together is, in truth, nothing like a man and a woman creating a life and a family together. Same-sex relationships are certainly very legitimate, rewarding pursuits, leading to happiness for many, but they are wholly different in experience and nature.

Over at Mercator, it restates what young adults use to (past tense) learn in Aristotle.

For Aristotle, the irreducible core of a polity is the family. Thus, Aristotle begins The Politics not with a single individual, but with a description of a man and a woman together in the family, without which the rest of society cannot exist. As he says in The Politics, “first of all, there must necessarily be a union or pairing of those who cannot exist without one another.” Later, he states that “husband and wife are alike essential parts of the family.”

Without the family, there are no villages, which are associations of families, and without villages, there is no polis. “Every state is [primarily] composed of households,” Aristotle asserts. In other words, without households – meaning husbands and wives together in families – there is no state. In this sense, the family is the pre-political institution. The state does not make marriage possible; marriage makes the state possible.
MIT has the classic online in full.

Friday, March 8, 2013

7 Quick Takes Friday

Hosted by The Conversion Diary

1.For Lent, I'm reading fiction, just to let my brain rest and enjoy a good story. Currently reading The Technologists by Matthew Pearl. It even has a reference to Lowell in there. The fictional story sets itself with the first graduating class of MIT, solving an incident in Boston Harbor. It bring so many historical elements into the story, including those Papists!

2. I had to explain to my oldest that marriage means something different by our government, then it does by the Church. I explained to her the Church is clear and concise with its understanding of marriage, along with its intent and purpose. The Church in simple terms connects that human sexuality is designed to create life, and without much verbiage can state, 1601 "The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life, is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring; this covenant between baptized persons has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament." In bold is no more then 35 words, and yes we have lost this understanding.

3. As a matter of necessity, I tried to explain what it meant to be gay. She understood the biology of sexual intercourse, and well the mere thought of the sexual act makes her grossed out, but she pressed on how sperm got to the egg and I had to tell her a few months ago. I asked her do ever think a boy in your class is 'cute', like in a way that makes you feel funny inside. She got embarrassed. I informed her some people never experience this attraction with the opposite sex as they get older (opposite sex is a term, she isn't use to). People refer to this as being 'gay', and in Massachusetts two men or two women can get married by the state's law and that the law had removed the idea that a child has a mother and father. I refuse to go into the subject of oral and anal sex at her age.

4.I also taught her some people may think, because we disagree with the state's new definition of marriage that we hate people who are gay, but as Catholics we are actually called to defend gay people from any unjust discrimination. 2358 The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God's will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord's Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.

5. This conversation reminds me of this old posting from May of last year. Me: Female choice key to evolutionary shift to modern familyThe courts can claim it is unconstitutional to recognize the legal status of such a relationship, but as a species it holds importance and deserves some respect. RobT:Renee, can you please specify the relationship that courts have said it's unconstitutional to recognize? As far as I know, it's still constitutional to recognize opposite sex relationships as marriage.Me:I'm not talking about marriage, I'm talking about something else. Any two people can be married.RobTOkay. I just don't know what "such a relationship" is referring to.Me:Me either. I do find it fascinating the adaptive change of females to have males be sexually exclusive and to be rewarded with evolutionary benefits. It can be seen in the socio-economic differences when the paternal parent resides and committed to the maternal parent and offspring. Amazing.

6.My son complained that other student's parents did their book report project for them. He could tell, by how perfect their poster boards were. Parents, we all want to help our children, but teachers know when you do their work. Don't make it a habit. My son did fine with his report.

7.My older children have taken an interest in the law, I allowed my daughter to read my law book on torts, we had a good discussion on the distinction between the difference between an accident and a mistake.

Thursday, March 7, 2013

When I say 'Even gay people have a mom and dad', I meant it.

Hearts of Flesh by Steve Gershom (from Gay, Catholic, and Feeling Fine) via My Year of Faith
Gay or straight, first world or third, healthy or sick or totally deformed, you’re going to suffer.

A lot of gay people grow up with a deep sensation of being totally alone, totally different; and of course the more different you feel, the less likely you are to open up to people, the more convinced you become that nobody else is like you. It’s a very dark hole to be down in, and the only reason I don’t live in that hole is because of the love of some very good people.

In short, being gay is one more way of being human; or rather, it is one more way of being out of joint, in a world where nobody’s pieces fit together the way they should. Nobody makes it out of here alone. If we would be healed, we must be vulnerable with others; and by doing so we will teach them that it is safe for them to be vulnerable with us. In this way every man breaks down his own and his neighbor’s heart of stone, and begins to build a heart of flesh in its place.

Monday, March 4, 2013

Can't we just say we've lost our compasses as a civilization?

Science Daily reports the American Psychological Association says there is no scientific basis of any difference between homosexual and heterosexual relationships and that scientifically they're the same. Scientifically speaking there is a difference, the APA is just ignoring it. Reproduction and the care of babies comes from heterosexual behavior (the link is geared to young teens with the use of cycle beads), not homosexual behavior even when we accept homosexual behavior as normal. Even if both are completely normal doesn't mean there are no differences, our public policy should be able to make such distinctions for the needs and care of children to have both their mother and father.

The APA is going against its own conclusions in the brief to the Supreme Court.

The Changing Role of the Modern Day Father from the APA

Other research on the role of fathers suggests that the influence of father love on children's development is as great as the influence of a mother's love. Fatherly love helps children develop a sense of their place in the world, which helps their social, emotional and cognitive development and functioning. Moreover, children who receive more love from their fathers are less likely to struggle with behavioral or substance abuse problems.

Children deserve and have the right to be loved by their mother and father. Right?

Do Children Need Both a Mother and a Father? asked by Science Daily in 2010 in which the article concludes with a no.

Evolutionary processes allow parents to bond with our biological children. Science Daily cites another article, just from a few days ago supporting that fathers are indeed important. Fathers are supportive, and necessary for a child's well being. The father's role developed strongly in the hunter/gatherers stage in human beings.

There are several cites in these links, that mention a gay father or mother. Because one parent is gay, doesn't mean the child loses his/her right to the other biological parent and this is the legal/social problem with same-sex couples claiming they have children together. Read: How a gay man fought for his parental rights and won against a lesbian couple, in which I defend the man.

Public Conversations

While waiting in an office in Lowell, a mother who was trying to fill out some papers told (not yell) her baby to 'shut up' as the child cried in her stroller. I went over to calm the child and told the mom don't worry I have four children. The mother quickly responded back, "Well I had three abortions and one child."

The baby just cried and cried with a pacifier beside her mouth. The mother reached for a bottle, but it didn't seem the baby was hungry. The mother in a rush tried to redo the blankets that cover the stroller, because where ever they were going it was by foot.

Have I ever said 'shut up' to my children before in a moment of stress? Yes.

I wish the mother in a moment not realizing someone was trying to help her, was trying to be fresh with her three abortions remark in a way to back off. Deep down that I think she was sadly telling the truth.

Sunday, March 3, 2013

'Jezebel' supports Catholic teaching on fertility awareness!

Well sort of, but I'm having one of those Obama Jedi-mind-melts in the past 24 hours.

via Jezebel

‎"I maintain that it'd also be good for women who don't want to get pregnant but are still interested in how their cycles run. I have a few friends whose main form of birth control is fertility awareness, and none of them have accidentally gotten knocked up....the thought of not putting more drugs or foreign objects into my body sounds pretty alright."

Friday, March 1, 2013

7 Quick Takes Friday

Hosted by Conversion Diary

1. I've been saving all of my meatless recipes for Lent, so we now look forward to Friday. Potato Salad, eggplant, cheese tortellini, Lentil and Minestrone soups, linguine and clam sauce, and grilled cheese with tomato soup. Of course the bread! Never realize how much we all love bread! So hard to limit one's portions.

2. The Pope Emeritus knows nine languages and eight other interesting facts from the Huffington Post.

3. Abstinence works and so does monogamy, but no one wants to admit it. The science doesn't lie and the CDC supports that as a matter of public health. The fact abstinence and monogamy are in fact how we show love, doesn't' help people who are narcissistic. Otherwise a good local Lowell discussion, on why and why not teen pregnancy rates are low in North Dakota.

4. Father Scapegoat and the pedophile next door to the Church A young man is charged with having child porn living just feet from parish property here in my neighborhood. Sexual abuse is everywhere, and now it is asked are you interested in breaking this cycle of sexual abuse or are you more interested in exploiting the sexual abuse of children for your own personal dislike of the Catholic Church?

5. Narcissism isn't allowed in marriage. Consensual sex with other people isn't an open marriage, rather it's really a fraud. Instead of just one person lying, it's a conspiracy and his wife is just a liar along with him.

6. Lingering Snow issues in Lowell, the plow drivers blame the residents, but on my street they really do a poor job (photos in the link where no cars were parked on the curb and five foot in width snow banks). Update:I had no idea that this plow driver made national news! He plowed our neighborhood.

7.Having your birthday during Lent is difficult, my daughter is no longer a child in the sense birthdays have to be some sort of outing that is a non-child place. I was hoping to get her tickets to the Boston Ballet!