Thursday, February 28, 2013

Father Scapegoat and the pedophile next door to the Church

The Lowell Sun reported on a Court Appearance of a young man who is charged with having child pornography. The man charged lives just around the corner to Saint Michael's, my parish. Numerous students from Saint Michael's School and the Robinson School walk back and forth to school each day. At the intersections closer to Bridge St, there are bus stops. Also from walking by this place of residence there are several children that live close by, if not next door.

The great majority of citizens in our communities are NOT PEDOPHILES, but we are unable to distinguished who is a threat and who isn't. Over the years we've characterizes pedophiles, as priests. We numb ourselves away from the severe gravity of the real problem, by simply telling ourselves stay away from the man dressed in black who is wearing a collar. "They're all pervs, because they don't get married."

The Anchoress addresses this in "Priestly Celibacy and Earthbound Thinking"
I do love my husband’s response to a woman who was carrying on to him about how celibacy was the whole cause and catalyst for our terrible scandals. He asked her, “have you had periods of your life when you’ve been celibate?” She said, “of course!” He then said, “and during those periods, did you feel like you wanted to have sex with kids?” She got the point.

In our culture that has severed sexuality from love and procreation, we have a secular culture that mocks not only celibate priests but bullies virgins, and even married couples who don't use contraception as being 'out of touch', as oppose to just respect the organic nature of human sexuality.

Then there is this from a lapse Catholic from Australia who is critical of those who paint Priests as pedophiles, even critical of those who monitor accusations against priests, but refuse to go after non-priests. In his community, the comic book store owner was a pedophile, but no one did anything. It was years until he finally got caught. Father Scapegoat Joe Dolce

However, in fact, family members are the ones most guilty of sexually abusing children. Experts disagree on the rate of sexual abuse among the general American male population, but Allen says a conservative estimate is one in ten. Margaret Leland Smith, a researcher at the John Jay College of Criminal Justice, says her review of the numbers indicates it’s closer to one in five. But in either case, the rate of abuse by Catholic priests is not higher than these national estimates. The public also doesn’t realize how “profoundly prevalent” child sexual abuse is, adds Smith. Even those numbers may be low. Most child abusers have one thing in common, and it’s not piety—it’s pre-existing relationships with their victims. That includes priests and ministers and rabbis, of course, but also family members, friends, neighbours, teachers, coaches, scout leaders and doctors. According to federal studies, most abuse occurs at the hands of family members or others in the victim’s “circle of trust”.

I am not defending what has occurred within the Catholic Church, but critics of the Church are oblivious that the problem isn't just within the Catholic Church. This problem is everywhere, and now it is asked are you interested in breaking this cycle of sexual abuse or are you more interested in exploiting the sexual abuse of children for your own personal dislike of the Catholic Church?

The chosen individual, or group, becomes the scapegoat, or sacrificial offering, and their public flogging, exile or death becomes the redemption for the larger group’s real unacknowledged problem that remains unaddressed and dormant. Until the next time.

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Thank You Catholic Memes

"The human person, made in the image and likeness of God, can hardly be adequately described by a reductionist reference to his or her sexual orientation. Every one living on the face of the earth has personal problems and difficulties, but challenges to growth, strengths, talents and gifts as well. Today, the Church provides a badly needed context for the care of the human person when she refuses to consider the person as a "heterosexual" or a "homosexual" and insists that every person has a fundamental Identity: the creature of God, and by grace, his child and heir to eternal life." - Bl. Pope John Paul II

Monday, February 25, 2013

Narcissism isn't allowed in marriage.

I came across this article, and I read it. Coming out to my wife When I told her I was bisexual, and fooling around with men, I knew our marriage was doomed. Instead, it opened up BY MARK BENTLEY COHEN

So your wife puts up with your behavior. When she found out, the compromise was she is allowed to have sex with other people too. You're a jerk, Your not just a jerk of a husband, but a jerk of a father. Why? The representation of your children.

We were a good team, but years of diapers, weekends spent at kids’ sporting events, and slave to the daily grind — shopping, cooking, cleaning – can’t help but build debris between two people. Our time together was usually fraught with disagreement and bickering.I remember the first Friday night my wife and I had alone. Both kids had stormed out before dinner: They’d be sleeping at a friend’s and would call us in the morning. The two of us stood in the clean, empty kitchen looking at each other as if for the first time in years. This was the future, and it looked bleak.

Here I am with my own marriage. This past week, we had relatives take all four children for an overnight for the first time. This was the first time in over four years, we were alone for a night. Due to the rules of Natural Family Planning, my cycle was in its fertile phase and we're avoiding, nothing romantic happened. Still, when I'm alone with my husband even if it is re-organize three years of documents and do the taxes I love my husband.

I'm not miserable. Yes, sometimes we fight and bicker, and do mundane things adults have to do. We have to criss-cross all over town, for different activities. But we also enjoy our children. That's being a parent. Sure we have to clean up snot, but we also have more love in the home.

We are held to our obligations, and when you're married with children you should be held to those obligations no matter how the writer allowed his mind to wander away from the love of his wife and children to meet the needs of his personal horniness for men. This man claims he was miserable, but he made himself miserable due his lack of love to his own family. He wasn't trapped, rather he can't appreciate what he has.

This marriage is only 19 years along, so I assume the children still live in the house. To make life tolerable living with two teenagers, the children have to deal with their parents hooking up with other people. This isn't an open marriage, it's really a fraud. Instead of just one person lying, it's a conspiracy and his wife is just a liar along with him.

Love your wife and children with all your heart and mind, that's all I'm saying. That means, when your mind is tempted refocus on them and why you love them..

Sunday, February 24, 2013

Kad Barma, Who are the real assholes?

For locals, a plow driver for private contractor was fired for making a You Tube video in which he is critical of residents who did not move their car during a parking ban two weeks ago. In this video, the plow driver used profanity and took joy plowing in residents. He blamed residents for not using the parking garages, which are at times a mile away from their homes and a 20 minute walk in 'good weather'.

From Kad...

"that's impoverishing us all and leaving the real assholes (the street parkers and the into-the-street snowblowers and the premature driveway shovelers and the city administrators who value them more highly than the people who are getting up at 5am or working all night or what have you to see that we can all get our cars out and our emergency service providers in."

My side street once only plowed ONCE two weeks ago in which Lowell received over two feet of snow, no one ever came back to push back any of the snow. This isn't the street in the video, but a few blocks over. I live right next to a school, in which myself and my son had to walk in the middle of the street, not from those who shoveled out their cars, but to the plow drivers who never came back to push back the snow.

Two weeks later we have snow banks five feet in width, in places where no cars were ever parked during the storm. This photo was taken this morning.

Here is where people who parked their cars and were plowed in, then shoveled out.

Poor Dogg gets fired.... no sympathies. Apparently to him, and those willing to hire him like Kad Barma we're the real assholes.

Monday, February 18, 2013

One can have two gay parents, but not two moms or two dads. We all have one of each, a mother and a father.


That's what I said, 'One can have two gay parents, but not two moms or two dads.'

Meanwhile while trying to address the sex of each parents and not the orientation, President Obama had to make reference to gay parents in light of the massive fall out of father absence in children's lives.

From NBC Chicago

Now, that starts at home. There’s no more important ingredient for success, nothing that would be more important for us reducing violence than strong, stable families -- which means we should do more to promote marriage and encourage fatherhood. (Applause.) Don’t get me wrong -- as the son of a single mom, who gave everything she had to raise me with the help of my grandparents, I turned out okay. (Applause and laughter.) But -- no, no, but I think it’s -- so we’ve got single moms out here, they’re heroic in what they’re doing and we are so proud of them. (Applause.) But at the same time, I wish I had had a father who was around and involved. Loving, supportive parents -- and, by the way, that’s all kinds of parents -- that includes foster parents, and that includes grandparents, and extended families; it includes gay or straight parents. (Applause.)

Do you think children who are raised without a mother or a father, ask the same question? Do you think they are content if there happens to be another person of the same (or opposite) sex is adequate enough, not to wish to have other biological present to love them? Notice that President Obama didn't include step-parents?

Meanwhile in denying children the right to both parents department...

Fertility Treatment - Is IRS Heteronormative Or Just Muddled? via Forbes

Petitioner is a medical doctor licensed to practice medicine in Massachusetts. At all relevant times, his sperm count and motility were found to be within normal limits. Dr, Magdalin wanted to father children using the latest in medical technology. There was his sperm which feritlized an egg from an anonymous donor. Then there is the “gestational carrier”. Dr. Magdalin went through the process in 2005 and 2006. He spent over $70,000 which he wanted to deduct as a medical expense. He used as a precedent PLR 200318017.

We live in a world where it is illegal to have sex for pay, whether it be pleasure or for the outcome of a child. Both are human trafficking and exploit women and children. This doctor is making the argument that because penal-vaginal intercourse creates children, it discriminates against his right to be a father.

All about his wants, and nothing about the needs of the children. Why does our state allow this to occur in the fertility industry to deny children access to their biological kin, because the adult has more right to wanting a child? Yet at the Massachusetts Department of Children and Families, we wouldn't never do this by law. A child has a right to their mother and father, to be identified and seeking out all possible relationships by kin, is the obligation of the law.

Friday, February 15, 2013

7 Quick Takes

Thank You Conversion Diary

1. I just finished 'The Time Keeper', by Mitch Albom. A modern day fable, it covers life and death issues that anyone could enjoy the read. I hate fiction, so for Lent I've been reading it. I can't read another book on demography or fertility.

2. CDC Warns of Super-Gonorrhea

Satterwhite emphasizes the need for safe sexual practices. “Wear a condom correctly, think about abstinence, practice monogamy, and get appropriate screening if you’re high risk,” she said. Left untreated, STIs can wreck havoc on the reproductive organs, causing severe medical problems and affecting the ability to have children later in life.
Abstinence? Monogamy? What is this? The Catholic Church.

3. An Atheist defends the Church

These days, anyone who insists on getting the facts straight about Catholic institutions is accused of being a pedant, someone annoyingly and peskily committed to historical accuracy rather than to the grander goal of making the Catholic Church appear as rotten and warped as possible, regardless of the facts. Yet those of us, even atheists like me, who are genuinely interested in truth and justice should definitely be concerned that films and news reports may have left the public with the mistaken belief that women in Magdalene laundries were stripped and beaten and that thousands of Irish and American children were raped by priests.

4. Cardinal Sean's press conference on the Pope's retiring and the upcoming conclave.

Cardinal SeƔn on Pope Benedict's Renouncing of the Papacy - February 12, 2013 from Archdiocese of Boston on Vimeo.


Cupid's Arrow: Light Shed On Laws of Attraction


7.I've been without a cell phone since Tuesday. Amazing.

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Reaction to the Pope's resignation

I only saw two negative postings on the Pope on Facebook yesterday, not surprised from the two. One from the left and another from the right, and both use extremely harsh words towards anyone that they may disagree with.


Joseph and Chico: The Life of Pope Benedict XVI as Told by a Cat

"From a man of the French left, a passionate defence of marriage"

Bruno Nestor Azerot electrified the National Assembly in Paris when he spoke against gay marriage.
"I am a descendant of an oppressive society, which refused the right of legitimate marriage to a man and a woman if they were slaves, which denied them the right to have a child." Today, this law will trample on the fundamental values which create a family, the union of a man and a woman for the procreation of children, he said. "It is not the law which denies the ability to have a child to two men or two women, but nature herself. "We cannot deny the reality of human life. [But] now we are forbidden to recognise the difference between a man and a woman. As a man descended from a people who were bought and sold, I cannot agree to see children created to be bought and sold." "You must hear our voice," Mr Azerot demanded as he continued his impassioned speech. On an island where 60 percent of the young people are unemployed, where their parents also have no work and no home, "do we have no other priority, to give them a decent future, but to offer them homosexual marriage?"

Saturday, February 9, 2013

Worst Catholic Blog Ever

As I read through the links over at Conversion Diary's 7 Quick Takes, I see so much happiness and joy. On the other hand you see my depressing observations, here. There not complaints, they're observations. For instance, a line from Jen's posting...

“I’m not telling you that Jesus has all the answers. I’m telling you that he’s your only answer.”
compared to me begging if I could live in a cave.

Do you want to cry? Even the hippies in Sand Francisco are complaining!

Last summer, I went to look at a house for sale whose listing hadn’t mentioned that the house was inhabited. I looked in dismay at the pretty old house where a family’s possessions had settled like silt over the decades: drum set, Bibles, faded framed portraits, furniture grimed with the years, cookware, toys. It was a display of what was about to be lost. The estate agent was on the front steps telling potential clients that they wouldn't even have to evict: just raise the rent far beyond what the residents can afford. Ye who seek homes, come destroy the homes of others more frail.

Friday, February 8, 2013

Children need their father, whoever he may be.

And that dad has rights to his child, whoever he maybe as well.

Much talk is about the child needing 'two parent' homes, no matter if the parent is biologically related to them. As long as it is two, then it is best for the child. It is whatever the adults choose.

Well... 3-parent birth certificate is OK’d by judge

Maria Italiano, 43, and Cher Filippazzo, 38, were legally married in Connecticut. They and a hairdresser for one of the women, Massimiliano “Massimo” Gerina, had an oral agreement about their arrangement, but a legal dispute erupted as he pondered the responsibilities of fatherhood, reported the Gay South Florida page of the Miami Herald. “We’re creating entirely new concepts of families. If you have two women seeking to be listed as Parent One and Parent Two, that does not exclude listing a man as father,” said attorney Karyn J. Begin, who represented Gerina.

Parent 1 and Parent 2..... maternal and parental DNA and ancestry be damned.

Marriage has to be two, but now we expanded the number of individuals on a person's birth certificate. I'm happy for the father to fight for his responsibilities and realize he is a not just a sperm donor. His orientation is irrelevant to who is in relation to his daughter.

Is this to benefit the child and her rights to her being and identity, or to benefit adults who treat the recording of birth as if the child was a piece of property at the registry of deeds?

7 Quick Takes

Hosted by Conversion Diary

1. Blog conversations Gay atheist babies even if conceived through anonymous donor surrogacy, have natural rights to their biological mother and father.

2. Blog Conversations ‘Would it be the worst thing in the world, if two people who actually loved one another had a baby”

I understand there may be personal preferences not to have any children, but it is a fair question to ask. Would a child really be the end of the world for a wife and husband? Would it change one’s lifestyle materially and how they spend their free time? Yes. But would it be the end of the world? I really don’t think anyone could be that narcissistic to think a child between two people that loved one another would be that tragic.

If one was expressing as personal preference not to have children. If they were to changed there mind, a child could not destroy the love a wife has for her husband. Children can do a lot of things, but never did my children make me love my husband any less. Children don’t want to destroy the love a mother and father have for one another, they are the major beneficiaries from it.

3.God, Creation and free will

The Bible is not intended as a manual of the natural sciences; it wants to help us understand the authentic and profound truth of things. The fundamental truth that the stories of Genesis reveal is that the world is not a collection of contrasting forces, but has its origin and its stability in the Logos, the eternal reason of God, who continues to sustain the universe. There is a design of the world that is born from this Reason, the Spirit Creator. Believing that this is at the basis of all things, illuminates every aspect of life and gives us the courage to face the adventure of life with confidence and hope

4. We are awaiting Blizzard conditions here, in Lowell Massachusetts.

5. Everything postponed. Everything this weekend has been postponed due to the weather. Which is nice to have a forecast, but we now have three things to attend on Sunday and a birthday party on Tuesday afternoon.

6. Babies are good, not bad.

We're not having them for various factors that affect men and women. High costs of college and housing, and a push from the Baby Boomers not to rush into marriage well into the fact we're middle aged. Yes, 35 is middle aged! If you are old enough to be President, you're not young.

Jonathan Last, author of the new book "What to Expect when No One is Expecting", notes that the ideal is not to bribe/force women to have babies but realize people actually want children.I'm looking forward for a deeper explanation from the book, but this is from his blog.

In a country of 300 million, a 2.5 average means that lots of people will have an ideal number of zero–and there’s nothing wrong with that. We celebrate and validate those choices while recognizing that the data suggests their experiences are not the mean.) What that means is that there’s an enormous gap between people’s ideal fertility and their achieved fertility. Which means that the problem we have in America isn’t that we’re asking people to have kids they don’t want–it’s that people aren’t having, on average, the number of kids they do want.

7. Anthropology - How to make a Kinship Chart The biggest beneficiary of marriage is "EGO", You!

Thursday, February 7, 2013

Wednesday, February 6, 2013

We must save something we can not legally define.

Frum: To rebuild middle class, push marriage

He's not talking gay marriage, even though Frum will not change the shift. We can't push marriage, if marriage has been defined as sometime else.

But we're stuck with a problem like Leah.  Public opinion moved in favor of gay marriage and young adults do not see the secular public policy concerns that have grown over the decades. A real problem which we must address.

As candidate Barack Obama told a Chicago church in 2008:

"(C)hildren who grow up without a father are five times more likely to live in poverty and commit crime, nine times more likely to drop out of schools, and 20 times more likely to end up in prison. They are more likely to have behavioral problems, or run away from home or become teenage parents themselves. And the foundations of our community are weaker because of it"

But the President's opinion has evolved, and what he said five years ago doesn't matter.

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

We all know that ovaries are like appendixes, leftover body parts from a less evolved age. But they make a lovely place to put your rosaries. -Barbara Dawson Cobb

They all use to be pro-life.

Markey pointed to his long record of supporting abortion rights since he changed his ­position on the issue in 1983.

Edward Markey use to be pro-life. As was once Stephen Lynch in a strange turn of events. Being pro-life is more then just Roe v. Wade. It is about a culture that now doesn't accept that life is created through sex, and does nothing to help those who choose life other then to shame them. Instead of making it easier for women and men to choose life for their unborn child, politicians will blame human reproductive function and demand that individuals need more education and contraception.

Where is the evil in accepting and loving the child? Why are we unwanting our children?

The birth contol/abortion industry also know as "reproductive health", has a large financial influence in Washington D.C.

Richard Howe, as a Markey supporter highlights the issue.

Monday, February 4, 2013

An obligation is objective.

Commitment and even love are terminable in a way that obligation is not because both are subjective and can, to some degree, be chosen or unchosen. On the other hand, one may ignore an obligation, but cannot will it out of existence. An obligation is objective.

This quote comes from the Howard Law Review's "Portrait of a Marriage." 2006

I think about this law review article constantly.

In a recent decision from New York’s appellate division, (which is not old) the court stated that: It is an undisputed fact that the vast majority of procreation still occurs as a result of sexual intercourse between a male and a female. In light of such a fact, “[t]he State could reasonably decide that by encouraging opposite-sex couples to marry, thereby assuming legal and financial obligations, the children born from such relationships will have better opportunities to be nurtured and raised by two parents within long-term, committed relationships, which society has traditionally viewed as advantageous for children.”65 The risk of a redefinition of marriage is that this social understanding and the goods it promotes are in danger of being lost in the new adultcentered version of marriage.
We lost something really important, and there isn't a quick fix.

Sunday, February 3, 2013

Friday, February 1, 2013

That's some expensive 'free birth control'.

IRS: Cheapest Obamacare Plan Will Be $20,000 Per Family | CNS News Mobile

Friday's 7 Quick Takes

Friday's 7 Quick Takes hosted by Conversion Diary

1. If we still had a Catholic hospital in Lowell, they would be teaching Fertility Awareness Methods, that detect ovulation instead of this. Yes, they're offering yoga.

Lowell General (@LGHWELL) tweeted at 6:40 PM on Wed, Jan 30, 2013: Fertility yoga is for women and partners who are trying to conceive. It helps relieve stress & helps to prepare one for conception.... (

2.This case should be taught in all 4th-8thgrade classes in the Commonwealth of Massachusetts. News (@BostonDotCom) tweeted at 5:51 PM on Wed, Jan 30, 2013: Massachusetts Appeals Court tells 12-year-old boy: Get a job to pay for ‘tagging’ neighbors’ homes (

3.Chasity Matters. Please choose wisely. 'First Time' May Predict Lifelong Sexual Satisfaction Waiting for marriage, would make sense if someone places some logic behind it. Glad today there is some supporting evidence.

They found that positive first-time experiences were predictive of physical and emotional satisfaction. Specifically, those who felt loved and respected by their partner found later encounters more emotionally satisfying.
A series of analyses revealed those who were most emotionally and physically satisfied the first time found their sex lives the most fulfilling. Those who reported higher levels of anxiety and negativity with the first time reported lower overall sexual functioning.

4.Moral Relativism is bad science. 'Moral Realism' May Lead to Better Moral Behavior

In two experiments, one conducted in-person and the other online, participants were primed to consider a belief in either moral realism (the notion that morals are like facts) or moral antirealism (the belief that morals reflect people's preferences) during a solicitation for a charitable donation. In both experiments, those primed with moral realism pledged to give more money to the charity than those primed with antirealism or those not primed at all.

5.Death is a major deterrent when it came to sexual behavior. Did Penicillin, Rather Than The Pill, Usher In Age Of Love?

Penicillin can wipe out syphilis with just one shot. As the antibiotic came into wide use in the 1950s, the number of syphilis cases and syphilis deaths plummeted. And that's when teen pregnancies and illegitimate births began to rise — long before the invention of the birth control pill.
This happened with AIDS/HIV, but the rates went back up when the medicines extended the lives of its victims.

6. The Sandwich Generation Rising Financial Burdens for Middle-Aged Americans It is as if, adult children will/can't ever be financially independent.

7. Yes, I wish I could go hide in a cave.