Saturday, April 20, 2013

Whatever you do, just don't call it marriage!

That's where we're going.... so just don't say it. From Parade Magazine: On what concerns them most about our nation today?
George Bush: A breakdown of the family. The economic strain on a single mom trying to raise a child is tough. And the statistics are that if a child grows up in a single-parent household, he or she is going to have a more difficult time in life. That has long-term implications. Laura Bush: It’s difficult for boys, especially, to grow up without a father.

Families matter, they matter before an education. This is why Head Start failed, as an early intervention for children at risk. Head Start didn't involve the parents.

Early Investment in Families Helps Children Succeed in School via Science Daily
ParentCorps was developed by Dr. Brotman and her colleagues at NYU Langone in 2000 to promote self-regulation and early learning among children in disadvantaged urban neighborhoods. The program includes a series of group sessions for parents and children held at the school during early evening hours, and professional development for early childhood educators. ParentCorps helps schools engage families early on in their children's education, and supports parents and educators in using scientifically-proven strategies such as how to establish routines and rules, reinforce positive behavior and provide effective consequences for misbehavior.
Results showed children in schools with ParentCorps had significantly higher kindergarten achievement test scores for reading, writing and math compared to children receiving education as usual, and more positive trajectories of academic performance from pre-kindergarten through kindergarten. In fact, by the fourth year of ParentCorps implementation in schools, the impact on reading achievement was comparable to the size of the achievement gap for poor and minority children, moving the average reader (50th percentile) to above average (69th percentile). Together with previously-reported program effects on obesity and behavior at school, findings indicate that ParentCorps has the potential to meaningfully improve children's lives.
Study of Men’s Falling Income Cites Single Parents from the New York Times
David H. Autor, a professor at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, says that the difference between men and women, at least in part, may have roots in childhood. Only 63 percent of children lived in a household with two parents in 2010, down from 82 percent in 1970. The single parents raising the rest of those children are predominantly female. And there is growing evidence that sons raised by single mothers “appear to fare particularly poorly,” Professor Autor wrote in an analysis for Third Way, a center-left policy research organization.
“If Democrats have as their goal being the party of the middle class, they have to come to the realization that they’re not going to be able to get there solely through their standard explanations,” said Mr. Cowan, a veteran of the Clinton administration. “We need to ask, ‘How can we get these fathers back involved in their children’s lives?’
Well... we use to call it marriage. So here we go, we have to start from square one.


  1. Great post. I didn't realize that bit about why Head Start failed.

    1. I wrote about this in my own community last December....

      "Living in a socio-economic diverse neighborhood, a good number of my son's classmates at the public Pre-K qualify for free/reduced lunch. The Lowell's Pre-K program is only 2.5 hours, so the first thing they do in the afternoon session is 'have lunch'. I didn't realize this, until I visit my son's classroom since he was 'Student of the Week'. My son doesn't qualify, so he just has his snack. It takes up 20 minutes of valuable teaching time for children, we can assume may fall into an 'at-risk' category, even though a limited income does not assume 'at-risk' in learning.

      Even if they qualify for lunch, that should be outside learning time, there is a larger issue here. The parents who qualify, are not lazy or incompetent, they're loving parents who are fully capable of feeding their own children. Feeding a child lunch is not that hard, even a teen mom is capable of understand that giving her child a glass of milk, a peanut butter sandwich, a banana or some baby carrots. Cost may be an issue and maybe a need for some practical home economic skills, but there is no need to treat a low income parents as if they are unable to make healthy food choices for their own children.

      I'm all those for helping those who may need a little extra, even if it is in the form of a government program, what I'm not in favor is government unintentionally taking the basic functions a parent could perform away from them."


      A lot of the problems we see in the poor, isn't just economic poverty. It is a home that is just emotionally socially chaotic. In my house there is a pile of clean laundry waiting to be folding in the TV room, as toys all over the place in some rooms despite best efforts to decluttered/pick up each evening. But otherwise it isn't like there is broken glass and filthy diapers piling up in the house either. Some streets/homes just look like an episode of 'hoarders' in Lowell. You may be poor, but no excuse for trash all over the place. Something else other then just poverty is happening here.

      It's the failure to even give a crap about yourself and surrounding, and that is awfully sad.