Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Donun Vitae and Baby Veronica

Bad Catholic covers the issue over IVF, with highlighting Donun Vitae. Donun Vitae is a Vatican Document explaining why IVF methods go against the teaching and other forms of technologies that affect the inherent dignity of the human person.

Baby Veronica is a child, conceived naturally, who was incorrectly placed for adoption. I'm not anti-adoption, well maybe I am by other people's standards. I'm pro-family and pro-father's equal legal rights to parent his children. In the context of family, formally understood as marriage, marriage connects the conjugal act with the openness and acceptance of children and for a mother and father to raise their children as wife and husband. Even without marriage in this context and now separated as a legal contract between two adults in our secular culture, individuals still have a right to be raised by their mother and father, absent neglect and abuse. They are not a part of the economy.

Baby Veronica and Native American Family Values by Jacqueline Pata April 16, 2013

Veronica is Brown’s now 3 1/2-year-old daughter; Veronica and Dusten now are a family together in Oklahoma. Veronica’s father and mother were engaged when she was conceived. When Dusten Brown first learned of the pregnancy, he begged his fiancĂ© to marry him right away, to move into military housing on base with him, and even suggested she quit her job so that she could focus on their unborn child. He pledged to financially support her, their child and even her children from another relationship.

The father was heartbroken and confused when his pregnant fiancé broke off their engagement and stopped answering his phone calls and text messages. He called and sent text messages, repeatedly and without response. Finally, he got permission to leave the base and traveled to her home, some four hours away. Her car was there and he heard voices inside her home, but she would not come to the door.

Court testimony shows that the birth mother kept her plans to adopt the baby a secret from the father – because she knew that the father would never consent to give his child up for adoption. The father did not learn of the mother’s plans to give up the baby until the child was four months old and the father was on the verge of shipping out to Iraq. Once learning this news, the father immediately took all the legal steps he could consistent with the pressures of his deployment into hostile territory and subsequent combat.

If only we had more fathers like Dusten Brown!!! I see so many parents due to substance abuse or just unable to care do NOTHING for their children at the Department of Children and Families. I also see a lot of good fathers as well, who like Dusten Brown have been 'pushed out' of the child's life by the mother and fall off the radar and when the mother is unable to care for the child (due to neglect/abuse/murder by current domestic partner/incarceration) we search out the father, and he's at DCF with his family to pick up his child and take proper custody and care of his child. This may happen, even years later.

“The child has the right to be conceived, carried in the womb, brought into the world and brought up within marriage: it is through the secure and recognized relationship to his own parents that the child can discover his own identity and achieve his own proper human development. The parents find in their child a confirmation and completion of their reciprocal self-giving: the child is the living image of their love, the permanent sign of their conjugal union, the living and indissoluble concrete expression of their paternity and maternity.” -Donun Vitae
For whatever reason, the mother of Veronica rejected this concept, but why should the father and Veronica pay the price? It is clear the the pre-adoptive couple were on a mission to find a baby. After trying several attempts at IVF that failed, they sought out a pregnant woman in which they 'financially supported' in her pregnancy. The adoption agency and the mother failed to give any chance for the father to be a dad, considering the pre-adoptive parents were in the delivery room at birth but the biological father was not offered such an opportunity. Do you think if the mother of Veronica called up the father, and asked for him to be present he would not be there? Of course he would!

Unlike with adoption agencies, at the Department of Children and Families in Massachusetts there is no adoption fee. There is no economy, as Bad Catholic describes the concern, all that is present in front of the judge is rights of families and children.

“The child has the right to be conceived, carried in the womb, brought into the world and brought up within marriage: it is through the secure and recognized relationship to his own parents that the child can discover his own identity and achieve his own proper human development. The parents find in their child a confirmation and completion of their reciprocal self-giving: the child is the living image of their love, the permanent sign of their conjugal union, the living and indissoluble concrete expression of their paternity and maternity.”

This doesn't always happen in marriage, and as a trend it will be come less and less common in our secular culture. If not marriage, we must still promote and protect the rights of children to be raised by both biological parents.

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