Just a few years ago, both President Obama and President Bush not only defended marriage as a man and woman, but they both understood the reasoning in regards to child welfare and the importance of a mother and father, especially in more vulnerable situations in urban and low-income families. Bush initiated fatherhood initiatives, and Obama as a Senator also wanted to increase such programs and policies to increase the stability for a child's life.2.
Remember back in 2010, when Americans were polled about 40% believed marriage was obsolete. Three years ago was the turning point. " If your parents were divorced, you're at least 40 percent more likely to get divorced than if they weren't. If your parents married others after divorcing, you're 91 percent more likely to get divorced." Marriage decline is exponential. So, the decline is more evident and growing faster by the day.3.
This is awkward, I still want to promote and defend marriage. Or something. I will defend marriage without using the word marriage. OK.4.
So there was a local conversation on what to do after Gay Marriage is a part of the national landscape and what will happen to people like me.
Gay culture existed for a long time in Massachusetts all without gay marriage. Marriage declined on its very own, gay culture didn't have to destroy it. But I always connected gay culture with 'alternative' ideas though. But WFNX/Phoenix (the local independent radio station) is dead, and a lot of ideas we connected to an alternative are gone as well. So odd to head about a gay pride parade on Kiss 108, a media giant.
For me it was never about destroying gay culture or being anti-gay. Did you know, when Ray Flynn was Mayor of Boston and ambassador to the Vatican under Clinton, he (as mayor) was a guest on the '1 in 10' the local radio show gays on WFNX. He also initiated the marriage protection petition in Massachusetts ten years ago to defend our marriage policy, at the time.6.
The law will address the needs of families in new language and policy. Because even if you can't call it marriage, the state will always have the interest in a child being raised by biological kin in a stable environment. It will be costly and disruptive for the child, if parents do not vow as husband and wife to be married or whatever we will call it, how about calling it 'work it out together without being complete jerks to one another, because this really isn't just about being someone's special soul mate and getting a bunch of government freebies'.
I have to rebuild and strengthen the family without using the word marriage. That's all I can physically do at this point. Support parents being parents, engage both mother and father. If a couple plans on sticking it out, support their relationship and not just their wedding. Sad when a wedding favor lasts longer, then a marriage. Yeah, I save mine. When we live in a world, in which media sends the message that wants us to be more concern to saying yes to the dress, then to our marital vows.7.
Over in England, they are working on their government policy to help mothers and fathers raise their children.
Specially-trained nurses are to act as mentors to the young mothers while they are bringing up their babies, health officials have announced, in a bid to prevent child abuse and reduce the chances of children growing up to be troubled youths. The Family Nurse Partnership currently sees nurses or midwives regularly visit first-time mothers under the age of 20 during their pregnancy and until their baby is two years old. The nurses help the new mothers, and fathers, to prepare for labour, offer advice on looking after babies and toddlers, and help plan for the future.