Monday, December 31, 2012

Big Footed in Massachusetts Politics

As stated previously, I haven't been happy with the Democratic Party's platform. Not that I'm please with the Republicans, but in Massachusetts I'm working in a one party state so most of my frustration is directed to the only party that actually exists.

To be honest those who are upset with Democrats, didn't think Scott Brown was that great, but better then the alternative. The cult like existence of the Democrats in Massachusetts, ensure anyone will win against Brown in 2012. It was revenge, and no one, not even an innocent amateur Cherokee genealogist being accused as a compensated agent of the tea party or a sad excuse of an inactive attorney (me), who follows the rules of the Mass BBO will get in the way. Really it's creepy, and I'm happy to see Democrats standing up to this bull-sh!t finally.

It's bad enough when I feel the heads of the Massachusetts Democratic Party push candidates not to run/drop out, to make sure 'the right candidate' got in. But when you have the DCCC and the DSCC putting their two cents into the decision making it into a non-decision, it gives Oliver Stone a lot to agree with.

Big-Footed by Mayor Bill Manzi of Methuen

With the short time frames involved the Washington power structure has made it incredibly difficult for any other potential candidate to gain traction. The other candidates who have been prominently mentioned are Congressman Michael Capuano, Congressman Stephen Lynch, and State Senator Benjamin Downing. Others, like former Congressman Marty Meehan, Vicki Kennedy, Edward Kennedy Jr., Congresswoman Niki Tsongas, and a host of others, took themselves out of contention, leaving a more limited choice for Democrats. Under those conditions, and fearing a Scott Brown comeback, Washington insiders determined that they would unite behind Markey in an attempt to stop a primary bloodletting that might hurt the Democratic nominee.

We didn't have a primary in the last election, and we got Elizabeth Warren. Sorry, but she's lazy cheat that lacks leadership skills. If the state really really really wanted a pro-choice/gay marriage supporting female Senator, we had a good handful, many of them honest people and if needed be would have Massachusetts and the country's best interest at heart, and not the Democratic Party's interests to maintain power over the will of the people. So the Democrats can chant and berate that Senator Scott Brown is/was nothing more then an NRA/Wall St. supporter, but he's pathetically is/was a lot more sincere in his representation then anything the Democrats at that party level have produced.

Friday, December 28, 2012

7 Quick Takes Friday

1.I'm still enjoying Christmas.

2.I've been good over the years to utilize the Advent season wisely. My children still do many of their school/club activities pre-December 25th, but we make sure Christmas is still Christmas until Epiphany. We never over do Christmas on Christmas morning. I've taken my in-law's tradition and do not do big ticket items on Christmas and stagger out visiting relatives over the week.

3. I'm also good about avoiding the malls/shopping centers immediately after Christmas. This helps as well, I remember as a child being in the 'return line' the day after. Terrible way to enjoy December 26th. So buy gifts that don't risk returning.

4.My youngest wanted to know why I didn't have a baby. I would happy to have more, but circumstances beyond my control do not foresee that occurring. He did understand that life comes from eggs, which I thought was interesting he had that connection. I do talk about the reproductive system at times with the older children. So he knows that I have 'eggs', just not like the eggs in the fridge though.

5.Someone bought my children Nerf guns, the high-powered battery operated type. Um, yeah. Thanks. Nerf darts everywhere.

6. We're still cooking, here as well due to the Christmas feast, which I enjoy. We have large breakfasts and even enjoy some take out, which is a treat for us.

7.I need to make an MP3 compilation of Christmas music, I can't even rely on some of the online music stations for Christmas music after December 25th.

Sunday, December 23, 2012

Assessing risk and helping others in Lowell

Over Thanksgiving, we were gifted with a box of Meals Ready to Eat from my husband's family that lives in Pennsylvania. They received this case of MREs during Hurricane Sandy from FEMA, but never used the food and thought our children would like the novelty of eating MREs. I didn't feel comfortable eating these MREs, while I know victims of the storm are still recovering. In fact I didn't feel comfortable with these MREs at all, unless it was truly an emergency situation. I rather give them to someone who needs these meals.

I did have the homeless camps in mind, here in Lowell homeless camps are present and have existed over years. However I would not put myself at risk, by simply approaching the camps. I do not know the situation, even though there is relatively little problems with the camps themselves, there are individuals with addictions problems residing in the camps. And I'm not sure how they feel about strangers approaching them, as well.

I was in luck yesterday, when I saw a Facebook posting asking Paul Belley if the homeless camps needed anything. Paul lives closer to the camps, and in the past has gone over to see if they have any needs. Usually blankets. I immediately commented about our MREs. And those MREs are in Paul's hands today, to be brought down later this week.

The world is never risk free, most situations are safe in Lowell. It is important to understand how to assess risk for average person, and I fear in the name of keeping children safe we will fail to teach them how to assess risk.

Friday, December 21, 2012

7 Quick Takes

1. Despite living in Jack Kerouac's neighborhood, here in Lowell, I don't care, Bad Catholic. Otherwise great article on Jack Kerouac being Catholic here in Lowell and it's influence.

"“The Catholic Church is a weird church,” Jack later wrote to his friend and muse Neal Cassady. “Much mysticism is sown broadspread from its ritual mysteries till it extends into the very lives of its constituents and parishoners.” It is impossible to overstate the influence of Catholicism on all of Kerouac’s work[...]The influence is so obvious and so pervasive, in fact, that Kerouac became justifiably incensed when Ted Berrigan of the Paris Review asked during a 1968 interview, “How come you never write about Jesus?” Kerouac’s reply: “I’ve never written about Jesus? … You’re an insane phony … All I write about is Jesus.”"

2. A comment from Free Range Kids on what you should REALLY do to keep your children safe.

"Minor as the act of holding a door open for a parent right behind you (especially one with a baby in an infant carrier) may seem, it is a moment to care or be cared for. It eases the hassles of parenthood and makes us feel welcome and connected. Sometimes it starts us talking. At the very least it gets us to take a good look at one another, allowing us to recognize which parents belong with which children. It sets us up to be an extra set of eyes to protect those children."

"To ask me to slam the door in the face of a parent I recognize breaks down that community. And to what end? The shooter at Sandy Hook faced a similar security system. He was not let in, he shot his way in. Moreover, even when protecting military secrets I am not asked to shut the door on someone I know belongs in there.


4.Had to have a 'what if' conversation with Katherine, if a gunman ever attacked her school. She brought it up, due to a memorial service at the parish school today. The 'what if' involved the custodian and and the school secretary with cans of mace and duct-tape, ideally. You know, we don't want to kill the gun man, because either he is mentally ill or/and needs to be forgiven. Otherwise there are few places to hide, so use the alternative fire exit routes. Unlike a scenario when a there is a bank robbery, when you want a proper lock down, in case the criminal is just using the school to hide from the police. James asked, when the gunman killed himself was it out of guilt for what he did? I respond probably not, that killing himself was a part of the plan. The gunman rejected humanity/love to the point he wanted to take innocent life with his own. I told him I couldn't wrap my head around that either.

5. I did almost all of my shopping on Zulily this year. I had to get in done Thanksgiving week, because it takes three weeks to fully ship. Very happy with the quality and price, but a little nerve wrecking in if you're buying time sensitive. Mostly close-out deals from name brands, and everything is first shipped to them to be checked for quality so items are actually 'opened' there for that purpose.

6. I missed Minor Revisions last night, my youngest has his sleep out of cycle and went fell asleep too early only to awake at 9pm. Hopefullly it will be on Youtube for a week.

7. My twitter account is up and embedded.

Thursday, December 20, 2012

I guess we should be happy that Gerry Nutter is concerned about the sanctity of the Catholic Mass.

"Is it Just me or does this just seem WRONG?"

My parish is having a second collection, requesting 'scratch tickets' and Gerry thinks it's sacrilegious.

It's once a year, and the parish is trying something different for a collection. It's not like the priest is just scratching the tickets up on the altar with the Eucharist pushed off to the side, just as the priest doesn't count a monetary collection up on the altar. The collection by-passes the altar to a financially secure spot immediately after the collection.

We're celebrating the Mass, not the money. But the parish has operating costs, so yes we need 'to ask' for money. I'm not a fan of scratch tickets/lottery/gambling myself, but if the parish wins something so be it. It's worth the chance once a year at Christmas. Some people love buying scratch tickets, if they buy them for the holidays, then why not purchase one for your parish.

Yeah, It's my parish. Saint Michael's. And yes, we do give money to the poor and other charities. 7% each week of the 1st collection is given to a local charity, the rest go to the expense of the parish. EACH WEEK, all 52 of them. And on the First Sunday of Advent season there was a giving tree, with dozens of gift tags for local agencies that serve the needy. The parishioners gave there as well. Never mind there is also a Saint Vincent de Paul chapter to serve the poor.

I'm not suppose to brag or gloat about what the parish does or doesn't do. I will make note on its collection practices, since it is implied that we are not serving others.

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

I don't want my children to live in a prison.

I want to live in a neighborhood where I can have my windows open during the day, even at my children's school. My darling, skipping school on a crusade to get bullet-proof windows is only for your ego, and not helping. From the Lowell Sun

"Undeterred by the potential cost -- which Tony McDermott estimated at "about 200 grand per school" to retrofit each school with a more layered security system -- he and his daughter hope to jump-start a nationwide movement to dramatically increase school security, beginning in Dracut, said Tony McDermott, who owns Critical Clouds, a highly specialized security-software company based out of his Wheeler Road home in Dracut. "As parents, we find Vera's efforts quite amazing," said Tony McDermott, speaking also for his wife, Leslie. "She needed a place to focus her sadness and anger. We're very proud of her."
Excuse me, she is a girl who lives hundreds of miles away. She lost no one and knew of no one from this incident. Her father has a financial incentive. Yet she is so sadden by this, she is excuse from her obligation from school work. ""I came home from school and the news was on, and my mom showed me," Vera said of how she first learned of what happened in Newtown. For now, Vera is too frightened to return to school. Her father says they are taking it day by day. So rather than remain scared and do nothing, Vera asked her father what she could do to improve her school's safety, she said. Actually she is being truant, and this is not a legitimate excuse to stay home. So she can't be a nanny in all our lives and demand we be imprisoned for our own safety.

I'm bringing my children outside and look at the sky with no barriers, before I get accused of neglect. What happened in Newtown CT, made them sad as well. I told them the gunman either rejected or was unable to love humanity, and it is our job to love not just one another but also to go out in to community and love our neighbor.

My God! Pray for us!

I take my chances I want to be free, not hide with fear! What next dig up the soccer fields, cancel parades, and ban children from grocery stores, because it just isn't safe for them to be in the open public.

Friday, December 14, 2012

Marriage reduces domestic violence in new mothers.

Less Partner Abuse, Substance Abuse and Post-Partum Depression Among Married Women, Study Finds

Dad isn't just committed to the child, but also understand the well-being of his children is based on the well-being of the mother. Creating a direct relationship with her, as his spouse (wife) makes a difference in studies. There is an inequality in relationships, for women who can acquire marriage with the father of her children and those who do not.

"What is new in this study is that for the first time we looked at the duration of unmarried cohabitation and found the shorter the cohabitation, the more likely women were to suffer intimate-partner violence, substance abuse or post-partum depression around the time of conception, pregnancy and delivery," Dr. Urquia said. "We did not see that pattern among married women, who experienced less psychosocial problems regardless of the length of time they lived together with their spouses."

I see nothing about federal tax benefits/exemptions in this study? I see nothing from the Bible either.

Feminists, if you really cared about decreasing domestic violence, you would understand healthy supportive marriages was the answer to our dilemma and not contraception. Rather promoting men as husbands and fathers, we have to rely contraception or abortion, because we are taught not to trust them. And men are taught that women are nothing more then sexual gratification. Today, the greatest benefit of marriage is now legal divorce.

When human civilization picks itself back up, we will have to give it a new name. People, we really messed up big time on this one.

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

The Jr. ROTC high school student and the four losers in the sedan.

I was walking back up Bridge Street, in front of me was a Hispanic high school student in his Jr. ROTC uniform walking the same direction. While on the John Cox Bridge, a beige sedan with four white guys in it. They seemed slightly older, possible 18-20 and the music was pumping, not too loud, with some rap music with its fair share of 'f*cking n*gger' in the lyrics. The scrub in the passenger side rolls down the window and calls for the Jr. ROTC teen, the teen looks backs and the passenger with his fingers 'shoots' at him like a child would. The teens laughs at him of but nervously and picks up his pace, I could not overhear the conversation.

As we cross Bridge Street and the VFW, the teen looks back as the sedan that is stuck at the red light. He catches up with a female student walking home from Lowell High, and after they cross the intersection he tugs at her sleeve asking her if she wants a coffee at the Dunkin Donuts they're passing.


Friday, December 7, 2012

7 Quick Takes Friday

1. There are lot of children today with no siblings or cousins. All they see are aging baby boomers, telling us there should be fewer children.

2. I posted this earlier, but I liked it.

3. I have a twitter account, but I can't find the proper widget for a newsfeed on blogger. Any help? I tried through Twitter Widgets and it isn'th there.

4. Reports Cards were sent home. My children aren't geniuses, but they might be Saints (or atheists).

5. The War on Christmas, senior living style. As reported in the Lowell Sun, the residents are not allowed to have a Christmas Tree in the community room. It is a privately managed building, not government, so management has that right. But these residents are paying thousands of dollars in rent, and they can't get a decorated tree to sit in the corner for a few weeks a year. Sounds like a lovely place for any grandparent to live....

6. The tree will got up this weekend. It will stay up until New Years. Sorry, that's the best we can do, but other decorations stay up.

7.Sometimes I get seriously sadden, by the state of affairs and I have to remind myself I live on Earth. Sh!t is constantly going to happen.

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Marriage jokes don't make sense, after it was redefined.

Less programs that disenegage parents, and more that actually engages them in their child's well-being please

Living in a socio-economic diverse neighborhood, a good number of my son's classmates at the public Pre-K qualify for free/reduced lunch. The Lowell's Pre-K program is only 2.5 hours, so the first thing they do in the afternoon session is 'have lunch'. I didn't realize this, until I visit my son's classroom since he was 'Student of the Week'. My son doesn't qualify, so he just has his snack. It takes up 20 minutes of valuable teaching time for children, we can assume may fall into an 'at-risk' category, even though a limited income does not assume 'at-risk' in learning.

Even if they qualify for lunch, that should be outside learning time, there is a larger issue here. The parents who qualify, are not lazy or incompetent, they're loving parents who are fully capable of feeding their own children. Feeding a child lunch is not that hard, even teen mom is capable of understand that giving her child a glass of milk, a peanut butter sandwich, a banana or some baby carrots. Cost may be an issue and maybe a need for some practical home economic skills, but there is no need to treat a low income parents as if they are unable to make healthy food choices for their own children.

I'm all those for helping those who may need a little extra, even if it is in the form of a government program, what I'm not in favor is government unintentionally taking the basic functions a parent could perform away from them.

Monday, December 3, 2012

And they want to make birth control 'over the counter''.

Risk of Blood Clots Two-Fold for Women With Polycystic Ovary Syndrome Taking Combined Oral Contraceptives, Study Finds
PCOS affects between 6% and 10% of women of reproductive age with some estimates as high as 15%, making it the most common endocrine disorder in this age group. Risk factors for heart disease such as hypertension, diabetes, obesity and others are double among women with PCOS compared with women without the disorder. It is usually treated with combined oral contraceptives to regulate menstrual cycles and to help with acne and excessive hair growth associated with the condition. However, combined oral contraceptives are known to increase the risk of cardiovascular events.
Contraception is not a substitute for women's health.

Friday, November 30, 2012

What is the total fertility rate of the world?

With so much talk of contraception, one would think it would be high. But it is only 2.5, less then three children on average for a woman. Yes, it varies from different regions, and the highest birth rates in Africa (about 5 children per a mother). But the secular white man, is doing its part to ensure that African uterus(es) to conform with others around the world. The world population will peak in about 15 years, then shrink. Most population growth is due to longevity, not birth rate.

Fertility Rates are Decreasing in Some Unexpected Countries

governments looking to stem a shrinking population that is causing a future problem with their social welfare programs. (Note: in general, whatever governments offer, people don’t have materially more kids. Once women are convinced that kids are more of a burden than an advantage, they do not easily shift from that view, even if that view is wrong.)

Various religious leaders realizing that the women are not with the program of growing their ranks, where contraception has become quietly common. I am speaking mostly of Catholics and Muslims here.

Abortion, especially for sex selection reasons becomes more or less common. Growth in future population depends heavily on the level of fertile women, and if they are being killed or not at birth in places like China, India, the satellite countries of the former Soviet Union, etc… fewer women means a lower growth rate, and unhappier societies 20+ years out.

7 Quick Takes Friday


My son forgot I had an existence outside of being a stay-at-home- mother, as he actually read the law degree that sits in our dining room. "Juris Doctor" "You're a doctor?" "Yeah, A doctor of law. You know, a lawyer and I went to court all the time." "Oh" He then clings to me, all worried. Apparently he didn't like the idea I worked with criminals, and I informed I worked only on civil cases. He was relieved.


As Catholics, we're for the truth. Right? So when my daughter pressed on knowing how the male sperm cell fuses with the female egg cell, she meant how did the sperm call transfer from the man's body into the woman's. I pulled her aside and told her, 'the penis goes into the vagina'. Poor girl, she's in the lower middle school grades and wishes she was five again and never knew. Younger brother runs up demanding to know, that he could handle the truth. She informs him, 'it's disgusting' and obeys my request not to tell him. And his response, "But disgusting is good!".


Unfortunately, I also speak to them about pro-life issues. Which means I told them abortion was legal. Again I'm don't lie, but I'm fearful of not only traumatizing them about abortion, but also I fear the ridicule we will get for being pro-life.

If one is horrified I would inform my children about abortion, when they ask in detail how it happens. Does it matter if I'm pro-life? If I was pro-choice I would still be morally obligated to teach my children about it either way. No they don't take the baby out and kill it with a gun when my child asked, instead they kill the baby in the womb by cutting it into several pieces and then removing the remains. Do I tell my children the truth and give them the facts, or tell them the bull sh!t that it's all about reproductive freedom?


Why is it, one has all these great thoughts for Quick Takes and then end up lost somewhere on Friday morning?


I remembered the first Sunday of Advent is this Sunday, not last Sunday. Nothing is up for Christmas. Nothing, and I'm actually proud of that.


So my older children want to write to President Obama to demand that abortion should be illegal. I remember being that age, believing the government officials in Washington D.C. were could do anything. "Is President Obama Catholic?" "No., But he's a Christian." "Well, Good he's pro-life!". I didn't comment.


I told my children to start small being pro-life. Start praying for the parishioners of Saint Michael's and the for the people of Lowell, too many of my fellow Catholics and neighbors need to be more pro-life. How can I get the President to be pro-life, when there are people in the pews who have no problem turning the other way when it comes to being openly pro-life?

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Tourists want to see a canal? You don't have to travel to Venice.

In the past I've been critical of tourism and the effect it has on a local community. Venice is being 'loved' to death.

From the Christian Science Monitor

“It’s becoming unlivable," he charges. "You cannot walk over the Rialto Bridge, there are so many tourists blocking the way. Imagine what will happen when the Chinese, the Indians, and the Brazilians start to arrive – there will be millions more tourists. For Venetians not involved in tourism, the quality of life is getting worse.” On the main tourist route, between the Rialto Bridge and St. Mark’s Square, visitors looking for a glittery Carnival mask or a pair of €800 ($1,000) designer boots are spoiled for choice, but it is almost impossible to buy an apple, a wrench, a diaper, or any of the other staples of normal existence.

20 Million tourists a year. Lowell, and other cities, would be glad to alleviate Venica's problem.

Look, a canal with a boat. Save yourself the airfare, and drop cash you saved on downtown.

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Are BabyBoomers sabotaging their children's ability to become an adult?

College Students More Eager for Marriage Than Their Parents Are via Science Daily
"I think parents have a lot of fear for their kids that makes them want to delay the transitions to adulthood," Willoughby said. According to Census data, the median age for first marriages is 27. Willoughby says that what people say is the "right age" generally comes a few years before the actual marriage age. "What happens is that someone thinks that 25 is when they want to get married," Willoughby said. "So at age 25, they start changing their patterns around dating, and it takes two or so years to make the transition."

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

The pro-life story line in "Wreck-it-Ralph"

Vanellope (Sarah Silverman) is a useless 'glitch' in her arcade game, yet Ralph heroically puts his own life on the line to save a character that is unneeded and not wanted in her own game. In the end, the 'useless glitch' actually saves all of the other characters from the game. Vanellope also saves Ralph and his game, which was ready to have the plug pulled.

Yet in real life, Silverman is not pro-life at all. She is pro-abortion, and uses it in her comedy along with rape jokes.

Scratches her head, and wonders "WTF, Sarah Silverman". I say that in the most charitable way possible. Otherwise, "Wreck-it-Ralph" isn't that bad as a family movie. Typical, but not awful. Not awesome like Toy Story, but not painful like the Chipmunks.

Monday, November 26, 2012

The marketing of public policy

We all feel the effects of consumerism, after this weekend. While we will be buying presents for loved ones, and hopefully a few for those in most need, many of us are rejecting the overwhelming buying frenzy that has invaded Thanksgiving.

Marketing and transforming our wants for the purpose of profit, isn't anything new, and we learn to discern a want versus a need. What I do find is how marketing/product placement is happening all over our public policy.

President Obama won the election on smart marketing/branding of his campaign. It didn't matter what his policies really were, he sold himself. He knew his market, Obama is a loyal brand. He got out the base, no need for swing voters. More Independents went for Romney, then McCain four years ago.

Why am I bringing this up, as I do a turn about on the subject, because there will be a new BBC sitcom on assisted suicide. Is this art, entertainment, or product placement marketing on killing the elderly. Presenting the ending days not with hospice and compassion, but with the business of killing people off.

BBC Three has now officially announced Way To Go, a black comedy series about three ordinary guys who find themselves forced by an extraordinary set of circumstances into setting up an assisted-suicide business.

The comedy is based around brothers Scott (Harrison) and Joey (Heathcote) and their friend Cozzo (Wootton). After Scott is moved by a terminally ill neighbour's request to die - and at the same time faced with a predatory female employer, a split from his girlfriend, and a desperate life or death need for cash to pay off his brother Joey's gambling debts - he and his best mate Cozzo stumble towards what they think is their only solution: an assisted-suicide machine. A deeply illegal situation about which they will have to keep very, very quiet.

Um, No thanks BBC.

Sunday, November 25, 2012

Wait, We were told that birth control was about my freedom.

How Over-the-Counter Birth Control Could Screw You via Daily Beast
The pill has been with us for about 50 years and is one of the mainstays of population control. It is widely available and, with implementation of the Affordable Care Act, will become reimbursed completely. Planned Parenthood and other health-care facilities already make the pill and other forms of birth control readily available for anyone in need, given that the current cost for the pill is $200-400 a year.

The author is "Kent Sepkowitz is an infectious-disease specialist in New York City." Thank you for being honest about the government's motives, this how nothing to do with women controlling their own bodies, but government trying to control women. The comment section is a mess of trolls, in which against no one is speaking about women's freedom or control. Rather they are talking population control, especially of the poor, some really degrading and dehumanizing comments.

What too much work to create a healthy and stable economy, just do away with human civilization instead?

"Too Pampered"

h/t The Digital hairshirt

On Friday I posted the story of "Where Have All the Children Gone?", in which after the Korean War, the United States and Planned Parenthood did everything within it's power to lower Korea's population. Over 50 years ago, 33,000 Americans died in Korea against communism, while Korea to this day is divided with a dictatorship on the North, South Korea was inflicted with contraception mandates that look more like China's one-child police then a nation that was freed from communism.

In Japan, more adult diapers are sold over baby diapers.
Of course, Japan—Nikkei, Discman, and all—could just be in the middle stages of terminal decline. Zero interest rates be damned: Jobs are scarce, deflation constantly threatens, and China and Korea are not getting any easier to compete with. Japan’s debt-to-gross domestic product ratio, now well over 200 percent, is tops in the world.

Birth rates fall below replacement level, and the CDC complains there are still too many pregnancies that need to be prevented. Meanwhile unsure how we can ever pay down our debt, as a country. Maybe too many people don't want to have children, in fear of burdening them with this problem.

Friday, November 23, 2012

7 Quick Takes Friday

1.I haven't done these quick takes in a long time.

2. "Where Have All the Children Gone? from the Weekly Standard. It is rather disturbing that lower birth rates have not been by a woman's choice, but by government programs to curb population control. The article is on South Korea, but some of the government propaganda sounds like what is here in America. Why? Because we're responsible for population control in other parts of the world.

So in 1961, the Planned Parenthood Federation of Korea was established as a joint effort between Koreans and the United States. The new group worked closely with the government to launch a National Family Planning Program, the goal of which was to stop Koreans from having so many babies. It was a multipronged push. There was propaganda, with the government warning citizens, “Unplanned parenthood traps you in poverty” and “Sons or daughters, stop at two and raise them well.” Efforts were made to increase women’s enrollment in high school. Contraceptives were handed out freely to anyone who would take them. Men were exempted from mandatory military service if they submitted to vasectomies. (Wow!)

3. The Pill is being considered to become 'over-the-counter' no prescription or doctor's appointment needed. This is medicine that shuts down your reproductive system, no questions asked. Is a doctor's consultation really too much to ask? Do you think women will go for their annuals now?

Now weeks after the election it should be over-the-counter and women will have to pay the whole cost every month? If people are not using condoms, which are free everywhere, what makes anyone think individuals will use over the counter birth control pills effectively? Condoms only need to be used 'as needed', but women who may not even be in a monogamous sexual relationship will be taking a pill ever day for it to be effective.

It doesn't control birth, it suppresses female sexuality. Yes technically you can have sex with a pregnancy, but at what cost and hassle?

"There is no free lunch...or free shipping."

4.Earlier this year I wrote to my U.S. Representative Niki Tsongas over the mandate issues, her response wasn't great. She reminded me that my life saving mammograms would be covered by my health insurance as well, but now after the election. Now... Mammograms do little to help catch deadly breast cancers, large U.S. study finds

“Instead, we’re diagnosing a lot of something else — not cancer” in that early stage, Bleyer said. “And the worst cancer is still going on, just like it always was.”

5.Contraception only fails in your fertile phase and take sexual intercourse out of the fertile phase you don't get pregnant. Pretty easy concept. And because it is your own reproductive system normally functioning, no side effects, like suppression of important evolutionary pheromones your body releases during ovulation. Really important in attracting a mate.

6.How easy it is to become 'poor'. Scary, just amazingly scary. Frontline's Poor Kids

The thing that really stood out for me, is how much people still want to work. They really, truly do. Everybody I’m meeting. Because we are taking people who have known a better life to a degree. In this film, I’m not looking at the generational poor [or] drug addicts or alcoholics. We’re not looking at people who have already “slipped off the radar,” so to speak, that are also involved in social services and things like that. … These are Americans who maybe not have had the greatest jobs in the world, but they worked, and they tried to make that path for themselves. They tried to climb ladders and get further and follow this dream that you can hit the middle classes by working harder, but they’re seeing it slip away from them. And they are in a point right now where things just haven’t worked out. And because they never got to that level where they’re able to create a proper safety net, it didn't take long for them to fall down to the bottom of the ladder when it went pear-shaped for them.
The comments are nasty though. Basically the poor should be sterilized.

7. I can't wait for the Smoke Stack Christmas Tree I can see from my bedroom window.

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

It should be noted that idioms are covered in the MCAS Test

Local Blogger Drama

GL Tech supt. wants blogger's 'threats' investigate
The alleged threats were made by Lynne Lupien, of Lowell, on the blog "Left in Lowell," to which Lupien owns the domain name. Some local blogs have opined that Santoro made harassment allegations against School Committee member Erik Gitschier, of Lowell, at a time when the School Committee will be discussing her contract, essentially handcuffing the board into offering her another contract rather than risk her filing a lawsuit. Lupien commented Monday on a recent post with some harsh language about Santoro, saying in part, "And if someone -- a person in LEADERSHIP -- calls wolf on harassment like this, I want her head on a platter...Seriously, if this is what I believe it to be, it's absolutely disgusting, and totally unethical, and she should be hung for it." Lupien prefaced her comment by acknowledging she does not know the details of the harassment allegations. Santoro called the comment "alarming."

I want her head on a platter...

classified as an idiom, which "is an expression whose meanings cannot be inferred from the meanings of the words that make it up"

"somebody's head on a plate/platter"if you want someone's head on a plate you are very angry with them and want them to be punished "The director was furious at what had happened and wanted Watt's head on a platter."

Idioms are cover in the 4th grade and are tested on MCAS.

"4.11 Identify the meaning of common idioms and figurative phrases. For example, students collect and illustrate idioms, such as: “It’s raining cats and dogs”; “It’s only the tip of the iceberg”; and “That happens once in a blue moon.”"

It wasn't about the children, it was about the check.

Ever hear someone complain about a mother on welfare, that she just had her child 'for a check'. I do not believe that, and I know that even poor women love their children. I'm sure if she has the natural social support of family to balance bills and domestic needs, she wouldn't be on welfare and still have her children.

Fewer students could mean less money

No, they are not talking about a welfare mom, they're talking about our school system. Someone how the government is upset women aren't having enough babies, so they have to consolidate and lose funding to a smaller school population.

It is no longer a public interest in educating children, whatever that number may be, but now it is all about the marker and choice. The idea and need for public school is an important one for the community, and that is why we fund it with tax dollars, no matter the enrollment.

Subsidizing education is not a market for parents to make consumer like choices, subsidizing education is a public goal with a community interest. Charters are subsidized as if public monies should be used to make private choices. They're not doing it for the child or out of public interest, they're doing it for the 'welfare check'.

So now all the school districts are looking for children and no where can they be found, they need it for the money.

In light of the fall out in Ireland

A pregnant woman dies, it is unclear until an independent investigation if an abortion would of saved her. The Western world is in an uproar over this woman's death. Meanwhile.... at The New Feminism May 2012
There were at least 50 deaths linked to Yasmin and Yaz from 2004 to 2008. But that does not mean they were the only brands of birth control pills linked to deaths. They were just singled out because they increased the “low” known risk 74%. In fact, all birth control pills are known to TRIPLE the risk of heart attack, stroke and pulmonary embolism (clots in the lung).

Monday, November 19, 2012

Bringing a new meaning to being a 'Grinch'

Judge denies bid for Nativity displays in Santa Monica
But last year, after requests for display spots exceeded the space allotted, the city held a lottery to allocate spaces. Atheists won 18 of 21 spots. A Jewish group won another. The traditional Nativity story that used to take up 14 displays was crammed into two.
And many of the spots were left empty or had anti-Christian messages in them. Oh yes, so many people will want to comes down to see that!

"Spinning the Pill"

Where's feminism?

Sunday, November 18, 2012

United Nations violates the right to be Catholic or just anyone who doesn't want to use birth control

UN report: Religious objections to contraception and abortifacients violate human rights What about the human right not to use birth control? We still have that right of privacy that the government shouldn't be all up in a woman's body telling her how many and when she should have a baby.
Without such services, Mexico’s faithful Catholic women had to wait until “after their reproductive years” to “have the ‘possibility of enjoying sexual intimacy free from the worry of an unintended or unwanted pregnancy,’” the report stated.
I don't live in Mexico, but as a Catholic, but I'm sure if I moved there with my husband the rules of Natural Family Planning would still work and I could still enjoy sexual intimacy without the fear of getting pregnant. You know what else, even if I became an atheist Natural Family Planning would still work!

Friday, November 16, 2012

Can we be critical of Wall Street without being becoming a Socialist?

a comment from Mark Shea's blog.
Capitalism has collapsed into a nihilistic monopolized private sector that thrives off rent seeking and cartel behavior. Corporate welfare and regulations that benefit big business at the expense of market entry, widespread ownership, innovation, choice and competition — this is what platitudes about the free market, trickle down ideologies and plutocratic endeavor have wrought. Conservatives who seize this reality and transform markets to work for all, in particular markets oriented toward supporting family life, will be way ahead of the political game.

Thursday, November 15, 2012


Nigerian Catholics Respond to Attack with Prayer and Fasting | Daily News |
The European/American media are going nuts over a malpractice issue in Ireland, where a delayed abortion of a miscarrying woman may have lead to her death. It is being independently investigated, but the hatred towards my faith is vocal despite the Church allowing an abortion to save the life of the mother.

Meanwhile 690 Nigerian Catholics died this year in attacks. Outrage?

Pollutants Linked to Lower Fertility in Both Men and Women

And yet we need more contraception! Pollutants Linked to Lower Fertility in Both Men and Women
The trial followed 500 couples who stopped using contraception for a period of either 12 months or until they got pregnant, whichever came first. Researchers measured their blood for the presence of 63 organic pollutants such as (PCBs) found in oil-based paint, electrical parts and adhesives until they were banned in 1979, and pesticides that fail to degrade in the environment but are absorbed by livestock and then by people consuming fatty fish, meats and dairy.

Sunday, November 11, 2012

The law is a lousy aphrodisiac.

Early Christianity: a tough gig The Roman Empire was far more hostile than today's world. From Mercator
It was a pornographic culture. Entertainment was all about sex and spectacular violence. Abortion and infanticide were considered a normal part of family life. Adultery was so common that private investigators were among the few growth industries in third-century Rome. It was legal to sexually abuse a slave. It was socially acceptable to sexually abuse children. All the emperors did it. Domitian was considered moderate because he kept only one boy lover. There was great material prosperity in Rome, but no hope, really. People moved from one wine-fueled hookup to the next, but couldn't come up with good reasons to have children. They coddled their pets instead. The emperors saw the demographic crisis coming. They worried about homeland security. So they tried to legislate fertility. But their efforts came to nothing. The law is a lousy aphrodisiac

Thursday, November 8, 2012

Catholics are still against the death penalty.

I say still, I remember back in the 90s, the death penalty and repealing was a big deal within social justice groups. I was pretty young, only 14/15 when it became an interest in being anti-death penalty. I went to the movies in 95' with watch 'Dead Man Walking' and definitely had an impact on my faith as well. Do Democrats really care about the Death Penalty? Maybe the antics of convicted cop killer, Mumia Jamal played a role in the public's disinterest in the repealing it. California is as liberal as Massachusetts, but this election cycle they were unable to repeal the death penalty.
Referendum 34 proposed to replace California's death penalty with a sentence of life in prison without parole. If it passed, the sentences of almost 725 convicted death row inmates would have been reduced to life in prison. It also promised to dedicate $100 million in the state budget for police agencies to solve more homicide and rape cases. The measure failed with 52.8 percent voting against.
Obama could win California, but it couldn't repeal the death penalty?

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

If you mean abortion, when you say 'women's rights' yes, it is still a discussion

Despite the chill, Valley voters flock to polls -

" Pecks, who support Warren for her stance on women's rights.

"Jobs are important," said Millie, "but if it means I'm going to become a second-class citizen, we can't support that. We already went through this whole women's rights thing in the '60s; it's amazing that it's still a discussion.""

Help me, God.

Old people, they talk like the 60s was special. To us born after, it's just history. My children think of the 90s in the same way.

Monday, November 5, 2012

Catholic Democrats’ Curious Claim: We’re the Real ‘Pro-Lifers’

Over at the National Catholic Register...

I should note both parties are not pro-life, but one is clearly pro-abortion as a national platform. Here we are as Catholics to focus on the needs of the poor, and it is always attached to abortion/contraception as the solution, sadly when it comes to public policy and government funding.

To quote,

But during a panel discussion hosted by Democrats for Life during the Democratic National Convention Sept. 4-6 in Charlotte, N.C., political scientist Stephen Schneck, head of the Institute for Catholic Policy Studies at The Catholic University of America and a member of the Democrats for Life board of directors, declared that “the most powerful abortifacient is poverty.

I would disagree based on the data I read up on, the most powerful abortifacient is the fear of poverty. Poorer women still have a higher total fertility rate, compared to women living in higher income brackets. Poor women are more likely to have unstable relationships and when clearly available still choose not to use contraception consistently. The fear of not having social/economical support from the father and family also leads to abortion.

Schneck did concede that the Democratic Party has handled the abortion issue “stupidly” in this election cycle by choosing to “double down” on their support for abortion. “They haven’t been open at all to the third of their supporters that are pro-life,” he said. “And that’s a big reason why this election is so close.”

YES! Double Down! Best use of terms on how the Democrat Party isn't pro-choice, it's pro-abortion and will use the violence of rape to protect all abortions for any reason.

After Tuesday, all the Democrats who supported Brown need to either take control of their party or move on and create an alternative for Democrats. The State Republican party is very weak, and is afraid to deal with social issues. In fact state Republicans can be far most socially liberal then the Democrats. While not ‘pro-life’ many Democrats support public policy that is supportive of that position, and still recognize the importance of mothers and father even if we can no longer call it marriage.

Saturday, November 3, 2012

Twisted Irony?

The 'War on Women' is about a woman's access to free mandated contraception and subsidized abortion. The 'thing' asking the question, is considered detrimental to women. I have no problem answering the question to my daughter, "Where was I?". I was defending your life, and not my right to abort you. And instead of dragging you at the age of 14 to the GYN, for a preventative IUD, I will teach you about your fertility (in scientific terms). I will discuss how STDs are transmitted through multiple partners, and the importance that a healthy relationship is the best protection a woman can have.

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Halloween and thoughts on Hell.

I normally wouldn't read such an article over at the National Catholic Register, about a former Satanist turned Catholic.

Yeah, a Satanist.

It soon brought up thoughts of a commenter on Opine Editorials. I like to keep theology and issues regarding marriage separate, but here and now would be a good time to address the concern. The commenter went by the name, 'Personal Failure', and he/she had a blog with the name 'Forever in Hell'. Who on Earth would anyone have a blog of such nature, I do not want to know. But 'Personal Failure' exists, and has a blog titled 'Forever in Hell', and time to time I, with my full name (Renee Aste) and all, become a target of his/her anger. I will not link to the blog.

The comments on Opine, have little to do with marriage or the concerns of homosexuals in a civil society. It usually become some far fetch accusation, that my understanding of marriage someone becomes an ignorant hate for someone who happens to be gay. A few times, yes a few, I would check out the 'Forever in Hell' blog. On top of the individuals hatred for marriage and me, there were dozens of links to anti-Catholic blogs. There was nothing about gay marriage, nothing about the law, nothing about the concern of children being raised by one's mother and father. There was nothing, but misery.

The sad irony, that the person accusing me of hate, filled the day with hate against the Church. I don't engage in the thought of Hell or Satan, even today the children do dress up scary but it is to mock evil, not the Church. But being a Catholic, by default I acknowledge that Hell is as real as Heaven.

A former satanist recounts her return to the Church, and provides some timely advice about dealing with Halloween.
Despite the momentary power I felt at getting even and receiving all my worldly desires, over time I began to be tormented by the very demons I had sent to torment others. I didn’t know it at the time, but I’ve since learned of this universal law: any demon you summon to harm others, can and will harm you.

I do not deal with demons, and I really try to take a reasoned approach to everything in the natural world. Yet, something with "Personal Failure" haunts me, as this person isn't just being an obnoxious troll, but really spiritually trapped somehow.

Tomorrow, I will pray for that person, whoever Personal Failure is.

Friday, October 26, 2012

Friday, October 5, 2012

If “Piss Christ” had a (R) next to its name on the ballot, they would vote R over leaving it blank.

I didn't say they should vote Democrat, did I.

I live in Massachusetts, and my fellow Catholics I have to ask why do vote for the other party that treats us like crap?

From Red Mass Group

John Tierney (D) has been running some of the most egregiously false political advertisements in the history of political advertising this political cycle. For instance his latest ad insinuates that Richard Tisei(R) is pro-life. John Tierney, I know Richard Tisei, Richard Tisei is a friend of mine and John Tierney, Richard Tisei is not, has not and will not ever protect the life of the unborn. He's not just pro-choice John, he's borderline Pro-Abortion. After all he did use his state campaign account to donate to the National Abortion Rights Action League (NARAL), the most rabidly pro-abortion organization in the United States.

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

If “Piss Christ” had a (D) next to its name on the ballot, they would vote D over leaving it blank.

I didn't say they should vote Republican, did I.

I live in Massachusetts, and my fellow Catholics I have to ask why do stay loyal to a party that treats us like crap?

Why are you more loyal to a political party, then you are to God?

Do you trust a political party more then God?

I'm not trying to push anyone away from God, but from observation this is a concern as a fellow Catholic.

Lady Gaga, I do.

Creative Minority Report: Lady Gaga Says Nobody Cares About Pope's View of Marriage

I know your fame is based on misrepresenting the Church teachings to your fanbase, the Church loves gay people. Got it. Human sexuality is based on a two-sex reproductive system. Male and female, designed for heterosexual behavior. We all have a mom and dad.

We have free will to care or not to care. I care, it is worth considering.

Friday, September 14, 2012

The idea young women have control over their bodies is a myth, their parents have a lot of say.

This isn't about abstinence, this is about birth control. Not sure how many women would want their parents to pressure them to use long term birth control, that they can not stop or remove without seeking medical intervention.

Parents Prefer Some, Often Less-Effective Birth Control Methods for Teens via Science Daily

If it's a young woman's body, it's then HER BODY, who care what her parents preferences are? I've NEVER had this conversation with my mom. And I wouldn't want to, if I was old enough for sex I could handle my own birth control. (And I did)

Cori Baill, M.D., a board-certified obstetrician-gynecologist and former member of the national medical committee for Planned Parenthood, noted that parents' disapproval of long-acting contraceptive methods may also reflect U.S. historical events around the Dalkon shield, which the paper didn't mention. The Dalkon shield was an aggressively marketed IUD with considerable safety problems. "IUDs aren't accepted in the U.S. for many reasons, across all ages, concerning societal attitudes towards medicine and the memory of the Dalkon shield," said Baill. However, she commented, parents need to understand that the risk of pregnancy outweighs the risk of any contraceptive method, including the IUD.

A woman's reproductive right to health care, or a woman's mother controlling her daughter's body determining when she will or will not have a baby???The parents do not have to understand the risks, it is the young woman that does.

Pregnancy is not a normal, natural, and healthy product of sexual intercourse.... instead it is a great risk.

I will teach my children how both genders work biologically, and yes I will teach them about Natural Family Planning. The greatest benefit of NFP is I'm NOT FORCING MY DAUGHTER OR SON to do anything. I just teach.

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

We're still women, even if we can't ovulate. | Dear Khloe Kardashian

"In my head I knew that my femininity is not defined by my ability to procreate, but emotionally I still felt like I was a failure – a dud - because my body wasn’t doing something I felt was inherent to being a woman."

A great compassionate letter, unlike the twisted logic from the post below.

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

To the Religious Right, I am No Longer a Woman

No one would know about your sterilization, unless you wrote a blog post complaining how the 'religious right' thinks you're no longer a woman. No one thinks you're not a woman. No one thinks Sandra Fluke is not a woman. I do hear the argument that pro-lifers are not really women though. We disagree, and there is a good argument in not rendering your reproductive organs non-functional as a woman. To the Religious Right, I am No Longer a Woman

Health insurance premiums climb 4% in 2012

Health insurance premiums climb 4% in 2012  but free birth control from the insurance pool is a right?

Why is this OK?

I had a family friend post this on Facebook. It hurts. Do I bother explaining?

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

I fold laundry, most of the time.

Dem. chair's comment on Brown spawns backlash -

I folded laundry, when I worked also. People should fold laundry. Especially socks, it makes the morning easier.

It is nice to have a man to help with folding the laundry, instead of needing abortion.

Thanks, to my husband who is girl enough to fold laundry and help me raise all of our children.

Thursday, August 30, 2012

No, this is not from 'The Onion'

Planned Parenthood Activist: GOP Women Are "Baby-Making Machines" |

No, we're human beings. Not a machine. But if you were to ask me what is the biological function of our reproductive organs, it would be to make babies.

Monday, August 27, 2012

Does she know some Democrats consider themselves pro-life

as some Republicans consider themselves pro-choice. Ellen Barkin re-tweeted this.

One third of all Democrats identify themselves as pro-life and I can assume that many support the public policy the brings man and woman as a household unit even if we can't call it specifically marriage either.

Good luck with the new show NBC.

Sunday, August 26, 2012

Now if a Catholic made this argument.

Semen: Nature's antidepressant? - The Week

Over at 1flesh, this subject came up.

Condoms may reflect the casualness of the relationship, which may be depressing.

Why Internet Memes do not work

Noam Chomsky has worked at one the most expensive universities and resides in Lexington Massachusetts. He can speak on behalf of all the lefist policies he wishes, it doesn't seem he has willingly made sacrifices in his personal comfort for it. He is one of the 1%. I do give him credit for not endorsing Obama.

Saturday, August 25, 2012

Short Form

 Eph 5:2a, 25-32

Brothers and sisters:
Live in love, as Christ loved us.
Husbands, love your wives,
even as Christ loved the church
and handed himself over for her to sanctify her,
cleansing her by the bath of water with the word,
that he might present to himself the church in splendor,
without spot or wrinkle or any such thing,
that she might be holy and without blemish.
So also husbands should love their wives as their own bodies.
He who loves his wife loves himself.
For no one hates his own flesh
but rather nourishes and cherishes it,
even as Christ does the church,
because we are members of his body.
For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother
and be joined to his wife,
and the two shall become one flesh.
This is a great mystery,
but I speak in reference to Christ and the church.

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Clarifying the Facts: NFP Teacher Responds to Congressman Todd Akin

Clarifying the Facts: NFP Teacher Responds to Congressman Todd Akin Yes, stress can postpone ovulation in a woman and extended stress may create an anovulatory cycle, if she has not yet ovulated. When I chart my cycle for Natural Family Planning, I note stress (i.e. parent being hospitalized). Akin perverted two issues in one gaffe, he minimized the trauma of rape and then cited the biological response to stress to dismiss the question at hand. Women, especially if they have just ovulated and the egg is in the viable stage of 12-24 hours for conception indeed can and do get pregnant from rape.

Tuesday, August 21, 2012


Over at Althouse, I had a conversation about Akin. I was under tbe impression that Akin distorted the fact stress may and can postpone ovulation preventing pregnancy. But I offered some of the information, and people thought what I posted to be nothing like what Akin stated.

Akin's statement made no sense, that we were all guessing at what he really meant. 

No you can't magically 'shut down' ovulation.

Stress is a contributing factor, but a woman can not by choice postpone ovulation. You can only monitor and observe fertility patterns. The Science of Mucus
Even a perfectly healthy woman with perfect fertility may occasionally experience a delayed ovulation during times of high stress or if she becomes ill during the pre-ovulatory phase, even if fertile mucus production has already begun. If this is the case, the mucus may dry up temporarily without reaching a true Peak, or mucus production may simply continue for a few extra days before proceeding to a Peak. Therefore, it is important to learn to recognize a real Peak pattern and be alert to signs that ovulation has not yet occurred. A true Peak is usually characterized by a minimum of three days of fertile-type mucus that displays a changing, developing pattern ending in a slippery sensation, changing abruptly to a sensation of dryness or dampness. If ovulation is delayed by illness or stress and mucus production stops, it will usually resume within a few days of recovery.

Monday, August 20, 2012

Forgive me

My concern should be for the victims of rape, not how an individual may judge natural family planning and understand the affects of stress on delayed ovulation. St. Maria Goretti, Pray for us.

Sunday, August 19, 2012

I'm scared to write this post.

Oh my: Missouri GOP Senate nominee says victims of ‘legitimate rape’ don’t get pregnant; Update: ‘A Torricelli situation’? | Twitchy

After 10 years of using Natural Family Planning, stress is a factor in postponing ovulation or having an anovulatory cycle. I've read even stress from moving can delay ovulation, so always note such events in a chart  Rape is trauma and causes stress. Pregnancy or abortion from rape is very uncommon. It exists, but in the scope os pregnancies and abortions very very rare.

The Congressman stated a factual truth.

There I did it, I defended some of the factual aspects of his statements. I feel totally screwed.

Thursday, August 16, 2012

The Pill destroys not only your libido, but your rhythym.

Lawyers should be serious about the law.

The Opine Editorials: Lawyers Mocking Marriage

"This lawyer mocks Christians, he just doesn't disagree with in a respectful jurist manner. Instead he openly mocks Christian understanding why a relationship between a man and a woman should be something and its significance. Even though protected speech, it ultimately becomes very hurtful/hateful, the intent is to despise a group of people not simply disagree in difference on what should be considered marriage and why. The lawyer even acknowledges the unborn child of the bride, but instead of recognizing that the groom creating a legal obligation, the laywer makes fun of what he is wearing (and their pregnancy)."

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

The Soul-Crushing Scorched-Earth Battle for Gay Marriage By Robert Oscar Lopez

The title of the article sums it well...

What the heck has this movement come to?

For God's sake, I am a bisexual raised by a lesbian couple, who helped countless people dying of AIDS. I've spent my life cleaning up the messes left by gay politics. I wrote an honest essay. That's bashing?

The gay marriage movement has finally crossed the line into insanity. They must burn their own villages to save them from their phantasmal bullies. All the real things that gays could do to improve their real problems are right before their eyes: be humane to one another, forgive others, care for their most needy, and most of all, pick their battles. Support pro-life politicians and adopt foster kids saved from abortion. Vote for Republicans who believe in school vouchers, get bullied gays into safer schools... But they choose not to. They have dedicated themselves to a scorched-earth campaign for gay marriage. And when that war is won, they will have conquered a wasteland. I wonder what Eliot would have to say.

Let us not forget that the LGBT community abounds in emergencies. Here is a snapshot of gay male life in 2010, as I wrote for an article that I ended up not publishing:
Meanwhile, gay men were not necessarily becoming happier simply because taboos crumbled and it was easier for them to have sex. Eating disorders, suicide, depression, and addiction were higher among gay and bisexual men than among other groups. In 2010, a report by the Center for Disease Control revealed that men who had sex with men were still contracting HIV at 44 times the rate of other men-despite decades of activism by a muscular and highly visible gay movement.
Are any of these real emergencies going to be solved by legalizing gay marriage? Wait -- before you take too long to deliberate about it, I'll cut to the answer: no.
They've gone to his employer and contacted is fellow co-workers.

"Speaking of pigs..."

Freakonomics » Speaking Ill of the Dead Apparently Okay if the Dead Worked for Chick-fil-A

An opinion piece in the New York Times called out a recently deceased executive of CFA as 'a pig'. One can be called lots of things online, especially anonymous, but to see it in print by a reputable person caught eye of one of the authors of Freakonomics.

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

The President's pandering

I have a hard time watching TV due to the pandering by President Obama. Women claiming reproductive health is a number one priority and Romeny doesn't care about women's reproductive health.

What they mean is that birth control MUST be free without exemption, and that women (and men) bear no financial responsibility for contraception and sterilization.

My fellow sisters, if you're biggest worry in public policy is a freebie on the dime of the health insurance pool, then count your blessings you've never been ill.

Consider this, even Elizabeth Warren is addressing real issues like the burdening of student debt. Debt prevents young adults from being independent and being able to pay for their own needs (like family planning) or even have a baby or two.

Sunday, August 12, 2012

I ate at this Chick-fil-a on Saturday

UPDATE: Local gay community groups denounced vandalism in Frederick. Also I read an article from two weeks ago, they seemed very level headed in why they choose to boycott. They had little interest in bothering anyone, just speaking that they felt CFA gave a portion of their profits to anti-gay groups and wanted people to know.

I disagree with what is or isn't anti-gay, but I'm glad to see civil engagement over disrespect for private property.


Maryland Chick-fil-A restaurant vandalized

This CFA is located in a busy commercial strip with lots of traffic to view speech and large public spaces to protest. No need to vandalized.

I was down in MD for a wedding, and yes it was a big deal to eat at one. We ate at two of them down there, they were busy, super nice, and the food was good.

Friday, August 10, 2012

Controling teenage girls bodies

IUDs: the final solution for teen pregnancy?

I do not own my daughter's body, I have a responsiblity to teach and educator her about her body. Shoving an IUD up her vagina , so I can sleep worry free about not being a grandmother is NOT parenting.

At Department of Children and Families, teenagers are treated with more dignity then this. There is a point in which a social worker should respect their sexual decisions and a time to step in and discuss the issue. What a social worker can NOT do is coerce a teen into birth control or threaten to take away services or education if they do not comply using birth control.

Sex education/health is not birth control management, it is a conversation about adult relationships, emotional and biological.

Sunday, August 5, 2012

Fear of being 'chalked'

I remember the use of chalk, mostly from college. While I never really agreed with the messages that were written along the path back and forth to class, I only remember the message of one of support of a cause and never a personal attack on anyone. They were annoying, but it was to a general audience and not permanent to property.

This past week two Chick-fil-a's were tagged with hate, a permanent marker, that required cleanup. The defense for one artist was that it was a protest, he still needs to pay for the clean up. If anything he will be more admired in is small niche, who may think what he did was courageous.

Graffiti is bad no matter what, but if it was in an urban area we take graffiti as if it was litter, it destroys the whole community. It hurts everyone. It demoralizes us. It says our community as a whole is not to be respected and to be defaced.

Freedom of speech is important, and when people take advantage of our freedoms to peacefully and without malice to protest a disagreement with publicity stunts such as tagging property, it takes away everyone's right to speak. Restrictions will be placed to stop graffiti (temporary or permanent), but it may push back an individuals ability to even be adjacent to private property when in protest. In Massachusetts we have 30 foot protest boundaries around abortion clinics to protect them from protests. Should we have 30 foot boundaries for every business?

Chalking on public sidewalks, I'm sure has it protections. Now though, how personalize and sad it has turned.

Thursday, August 2, 2012

Discussing marriage is more then a 'like' or 'retweet'

Cross Post from Opine

Not sure how much of the social media/Internet meme conversations I can take. I'm glad I don't have to and I work offline face to face in support of families. It is rather bizarre, here I'm using terms like reunification, stabilization, and preservation of the family to help a mother and father parent together, but no specific relationship or any sort of policy that can bring them together as one legal recognized family unit.

So when you 'click like' or 'retweet' on all those lovely Internet Memes, it changes the conversation that marriage is about something else. Issues of public policy should not be reduced to gif images with a slogan or 140 characters that makes no sense in the context of reality. The points you just agreed with me two minutes ago, are now all of sudden something about hate and ignorance or unjust discrimination. Everything I may have said in a reasonable manner is erased, once I state the public policy interest in marriage was once about a child should live and be raised with its mother and father.

Anyone who knows me offline, knows who I am and they know I'm not that type of person that is characterize online by those who promote what is defined as 'marriage equality'. They know I'm not an ignorant bigot. The know I'm thoughtful and I listen, and that I care.

Despite everything some people know who I am and what I am not, I fear they will soon if they haven't already no longer associate themselves with me. I may lose people I care about offline, because I can't deny what I see and know when I'm not sitting in front of the screen.

There is an understanding we want a mother and father to parent and parent well together in a safe and loving manner, in fact it is their Constitutional Right to do so. Even if we can't make a law about it, can we have a word for that?

Renee Aste, Lowell Massachusetts

Monday, July 30, 2012

85% of children living in povery in Boston come from single parent homes

The Opine Editorials: The Measure of Poverty (in Boston)

Married or not, a mother and father are still legally obligated to their children, but we don't see the best results if they are not married. Hence I still stand by the one man/one woman definition of marriage.

I guess I will have to accept my punishment for this secular heresy for these thoughts of 'hate'.

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

And yes, you and I will pay.

Health-care tab for 22 retirees? It's $500G in Billerica -

Not surprised either. Towns and cities can raise co-pays and deductables EXCEPT of course on birth control.

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Somethings will always matter, even if we try to ignore it.

Yes, Another cross posting from Opine

As I search for news items regarding marriage or more importantly the need for mothers and fathers, the fewer and fewer items I find over the years. It just isn’t talk about in public, instead I find plenty of news articles on the other definition even though I’m not directly searching for that issue.

Our DNA, the chemical reactions that lead to human life through sexual activity. All designed in perfect sequence and out bodies and our connections made found in every cell matter. We may choose to ignore this. We may even value the willful ignorance of this knowledge. We might shut down speech with heckling and name calling even. The importance of family to our species is the new taboo.

We know it matters and yet it can not be openly discussed. Yet the most popular posting on Opine isn’t the thread of 200+ comments, instead it quietly stands out of the crowd. It doesn’t need to scream or call people names, it doesn’t force or threaten anyone.

The post just an information piece, that everyone inquires about at one point in their life, even if they never marry or have children. The post stands on its own.

Renee Aste Lowell Massachusetts

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Baby Selling

A CT Fertility Clinic Sees a Growing Number of Single Men Turning to Surrogacy and Egg Donation for Fatherhood

Women completely objectified into donors, surrogates, and nannies. No girlfriend, wife, or mother. No love, just workers by contract to serve the man. The male is the only parent, and the woman is inferior to serve his wants. He has no social obligation to her, and she has no social obligation to the full needs of the child.

They don't treat a medical conditions, they create human beings for profit as if human beings are a consumer product.

Thursday, June 7, 2012

Claphappy Superbugs!
“The most certain way to avoid gonorrhea is to not have sex or to be in a long-term, mutually monogamous relationship with a partner who has been tested and is known to be uninfected."

The CDC and the Church agree.

Cities are better for your soul, then the suburbs.

Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Why monogamy and chasity exists.

Sent from the CNN App for Android WHO: Sexually-transmitted superbug could be major crisis http://www.cnn.com

It did say one should limit sexual partners, but as an after thought.

I feel validated.

Women on Contraceptive Pill Should Pay $1,500 a Year More Tax - Forbes

The Pill pollutes the water supply and affects the ecosystem.

Thursday, May 31, 2012

Female adaption to sexual monogamy and its benefits

The Opine Editorials: Not based on the Bible, but science.

It can be seen in the socio-economic differences when a paternal parent resides and is commited to the maternal parent and offspring. Amazing. Too bad we don't have a name for such behavior.

Saturday, May 26, 2012

That will teach you. IUD Shaming after an abortion.

Not all forms of contraception have the same affect. The more reversible the form of family planning, then of course there seems to be a correlation of pregnancies. A woman can't get pregnant on her own, if she is sterilized or needs a procedure to become fertile again. Her reproductive freedom is essentially given away in these instances.

A big key to her freedom and choice is the ability for a woman to be fertile again and maintain fertility without the need of a medical professional intervening. This is why IUDs are strikingly different. While very effective, a woman has less control and freedom to become fertile. If a woman chooses an IUD, if has to be completely of her own will, not offered to her as an gift immediately after her abortion with her legs still open wide in the stirrups.

Immediate Use of an IUD Following Abortion More Likely to Prevent Unintended Pregnancies, Study Finds

To conduct this research, Bednarek and colleagues enrolled 575 women, ages 18 and older, who requested abortions at Oregon Health & Science University and three other U.S. academic health centers. The women were randomized into two groups: one group received an IUD within 15 minutes of their abortion, and the other group received an IUD two to six weeks later.

At six months, the researchers found the 258 women who immediately received IUDs had no significant adverse affects and no pregnancies, and more than 90 percent of the women were still using the device. Of the 226 women who underwent delayed insertion, there were, likewise, no significant adverse events; however, five of the 226 women became pregnant -- all were not using IUDs -- and only 77 percent were using the device at six months.

"A significant number of women who were randomized to the delayed insertion group did not return to get an IUD placed and instead chose a substantially less effective contraceptive method or none at all," explained Bednarek. "Our results show that women who would like to receive an IUD after an abortion, but are asked to make an appointment for a later date, may not return to actually receive the IUD, and, therefore are at higher risk to have another unintended pregnancy."

Maybe she changed her mind, she has a right to think about her form of birth control and shouldn't have to make a decision at the time of an abortion! When you are getting an abortion, you're priority is dealing with the abortion and not long term family planning. (I'm not endorsing abortion or contraception.) This medical practice is taking advantage of women in compromising situations by making her temporary infertile with "free" and "preventative" care in which she can not reverse without having a doctor agree to remove it. She is no longer in control without the someone else willing to give her back her fertility

It's not because the Pope tells me too.

Well, sort of. If it wasn't for the preservation of Church teachings, done in an informative and charitable manner I would just be another contraceptive Catholic. But no, I'm not. Recently I was having thoughts on why I deal with NFP, especially due to financial and health issues it is highly unlikely I should have another child. Then I come across a study like think, and I realize it isn't about just mean but an obligation to to not only respect my body but also understand there is a trade off with birth control.


Water Pollution Caused by Birth Control Poses Dilemma

The problem is effectively removing ethinyl estradiol can be quite costly. Governmental estimates put the cost of upgrading about 1,360 wastewater treatment plants across England and Wales so they can comply with a proposed limit at between $41 billion and $47 billion (€32 billion and €37 billion), according to Richard Owen, a professor at the University of Exeter in the United Kingdom. "The big question is, 'Are we willing to pay this as a society?'" Owen told LiveScience. "Or, alternatively, 'would we prefer to live with the environmental impact?'" In their Nature commentary, Owen and Susan Jobling, an ecotoxicologist at the University of Brunel, write that more public debate is need on the proposed regulation. [7 Surprising Facts About the Pill] They intended to draw attention to this environmental dilemma, not to suggest that women should not have access to birth control, Owen told LiveScience.
There we have it, birth control is more important then clean water. It isn't really preventative care, if it costs us later down the road.

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Cross Comment from Opine

A comment of mine... I have a few.
We don't want 'fatherhood to end at conception'. We want to bring not just egg and sperm together, but mother and father, as one in marriage (or insert new name, if we can't use marriage). This isn't an insult to anyone not married or an act of bigotry to someone who isn't interested in the opposite sex, it's a matter of reality and need for the individual conceived out of the act.
At DCF in Massachusetts, there is a hierarchy. First Birth Parents, whenever possible we want to reunite children with THEIR OWN parents. Then family. Then non-biological. As must as I support these wonderful services, I understand children not living with their parents is not a wonderful thing. Even relatives and foster parents, gay or straight understand this. Foster parents, related or not, gay or straight, realize there is a hole in a child's heart that needs to grieve. We shouldn't take advantage of a child's lost, to push our own interests. The type of person who does foster care is a much different person, who would use sperm/egg donation. They're not in it for 'family building' to serve their needs, but to serve others. We all have two parents, a mother and a father, it makes it easy for the child and the government/community when they live under the same roof without conflict. Even though we can't call it marriage, in Massachusetts, that is how it is applied for children naturally conceived.

Monday, May 21, 2012

Marriage Cross Post

The Opine Editorials: NAACP Stories of the Dream

Found a Dream in regards to marriage and African American Families on NAACP's website. Screen Saved it for preservation, because that Dream can no longer exist.

Saturday, May 19, 2012

Alternative Lifestyles

When I was 12 years old*, I began to listen to WFNX here in Boston. My best friend and I would just spend countless hours listening to the alternative radio station, as a preference to MTV, except for 120 Minutes. My high school boyfriend, two years older then me, was a saxophonist in ska band. One of my first dates with my husband was a Bostones concert in college. Saw Ben Folds Five a few times back then also, along with other WFNX sponsored shows.

WFNX 101.7 started in 1983 and for the past 29 years a cultural institution for anyone who lived in the area as a teenager in the 80s, especially the 90’s, and 2000’s. This week it was bought out by a corporate conglomerate. The local music scene was pretty established, and music played a big role in our lives. It also played an important part of the gay and lesbian community, with its radio program “1 in 10” that aired on Sunday Nights.

So tolerate, “1 in 10” even had former Mayor Ray Flynn on the show, if I remember correctly. Flynn, a Catholic became the Ambassador to the Vatican under President Clinton, then later one of the main supporters in retaining the definition of marriage as one man/one woman in Massachusetts.

When the news came out WFNX sold its radio license to Clear Channel, many individuals ages 30-45 are morning the lost. Clear Channel will replace the independent music format to talk radio, including Rush Limbaugh…

I can’t believe there is a market for Rush Limbaugh in Boston.

I can’t believe alternative rock is no longer in Boston.

I joked to my husband WFNX isn’t on the radio, but the Catholic Church has its own station after we heal from the scars of scandal and its cancer removed.

So here I am still in the Greater Boston area, and I look back at WFNX in the past. While it will be missed, just because you have a few fond memories in high school or smoking “cigarettes”, doesn’t mean you want to ever go back either. Just as I hate my parents at times for being stuck in the 60s, I refuse to be trapped in the 90s.

When I was 15 I wanted to be that non-conformist radical, society couldn’t understand. I got my wish twenty years later, just not what I expected though defending the importance of the one man/one woman is good for offspring thingy.

* Why yes, I did see the New Kids on the Block back in 1988 at the Lowell Auditorium. KNOTB opened up for Tiffany. I was eleven at the time.

Cross Post

Thursday, May 17, 2012

Another Opine Posting

Current thoughts living in Massachusetts
Our views of deteriorating view on marriage didn’t happen over night. The ideal of marriage solves the inequality for the child. It gives equal access to both one’s maternal and paternal parent. This is not homophobic in its reasoning or based on hatred.
If marriage is no longer about a biological mother and father need to live with one another and raise their own children together, then what is this nameless concept and why can it not have a name?
Right now living in Massachusetts, I’m in the minority on this view of marriage. Only 30-35% agree with my view. Some people tell me to keep my views to myself, because there isn’t anything I can do about it and none of my business. Most people worry about the social ramifications and personal safety, they worry that someone will totally flip out on me. So am I supposed to agree with gay marriage out of fear someone might harass me or do something stupid?
Minorities are not marrying at lower and lower rates, maybe our marriage public policy/culture have become racist towards them. No? But should we acknowledge the lower rates? Minorities desire higher rates, so what are the barriers when they are completely legally free to marry? There is no legal barrier preventing them. If minorities choose not to marry, why is it everyone else’s problem? Anyone? Please answer.
And yes in accordance with Catholic teaching, "Men are friends, not spouses."

Thursday, May 3, 2012

We will pay.

Presidential Proclamation -- National Foster Care Month | The White House

Usually I'm pro anything Foster Care, but why does the President allow former foster youth medicaid up to 26?

In Massachusetts, after 18 you sign on voluntarily until 22 and held accountable for education/work. You do not get DCF assistance, if you are doing nothing. It's not a free ride for these young adults.

President Obama's Health Care Act is not like Romney care.

A NY state Democrat defending the pro-life position

Thursday, April 26, 2012

I will pay, again.

Last month I paid a 2k deductable, as needed with my health insurance:Cappadocia in Lowell: I will pay. These deductables are for illness and non-preventative care/routine screeings.

A few weeks ago, one of my children had an annual physical. The insurance paid for the physical, but not for the auditory screening as recommended for the age of the child. I owe $91.37. New policy. 

The HHS mandates contraception to be cover with no copay/deductable, but pediatric screenings aren't.

This isn't about health care.