Monday, September 12, 2016

Tim Kaine is a spiritual train wreck.

Yeah, I read what he had to say to the cultural elite 1% to garner their support and love.

Not that Catholic Church should change, but wink wink will change.... um yeah. 

Mr Kaine ever heard of that guy Judas in the Bible who sold out on Jesus for 30 pieces of silver.

You know that one.


It will be six years volunteering at Department of Children and Families on each case we talk about a child having a mother and father and the relationship (good or bad) with mother and father.

As a matter of public policy it is one a few places we can talk about the family, unfortunately we can't talk about the importance of mom and dad working together until we are at the point of government intervention.

Matrimony, in latin, means the act of becoming a mom. the defining purpose is within the name itself, the Sacrament is based on the conjugal act. Matrimony does not imply that someone is a bad person for being gay or simply not being married. Matrimony does imply there are obligations to our behaviors, married or not sex leads to babies and obligations for parents and needed support for them are necessary for the well being of children. Being married, as in a committed vowed relationship that is healthy, is about the product of sexual behavior.


You know we are all once children with a point of view on marriage.

Oh Tim, you're a spiritual train wreck.

Who do you think you're fooling?

Judas sat at the table with Jesus and ate.

 Do you think showing up on Sundays for Mass gives you Catholic street cred?

train wreck, people, train wreck

Tuesday, September 6, 2016

"I already know your mother"

Two people I am acquainted with, that I know independent of each other have started to date. I learned that some time ago that their mothers were co-workers.

When it comes to relationships I am always a firm believer in getting to know the family in a reasonable time frame before considering whatever adults do now in their relationships.I don't know I had my teenager daughter explain to me what 'Netflix and Chill' meant, so I am clearly out of the loop there.

But there is something nice about already knowing the family dynamics of other person's family.

Less to figure out.

But also the trust factor, a subject that I posted about earlier this year. If your own mother can vouch for the integrity of the family and if everything independent of that is great, already knowing the person's family is an amazing bonus.

Wednesday, August 24, 2016

I don't know what say when...

When someone talks about children's rights and abortion access in the same breath.

I don't know.

Monday, August 15, 2016

You really don't have a say on who you get to call "mom and dad"

I guess I will directly comment on Simone Biles, the US Gymnast and the media narrative in telling her background story. I'm assuming you know it, and well my criticism comes from people that state we need to respect who she identifies as a mom and dad, and that's real her mom and dad. Being that this was a kinship adoption of an older child, already aware that her mother and father couldn't raise her she was in a unique position to have an opportunity to call her grandparents either by the grandparent name or by "mom and dad" WITH her grandparents permission.

The great majority of us do not have permission on who we get to call mom and dad.

When my first child was just a toddler, she wouldn't call her father (my husband) "dad". Instead she would call her father by his first name, because everyone else called him by that name. No one else called him dad or daddy. She didn't have any older siblings, we had to teach her to call her father "dad". We could have done nothing and allowed her to keep calling her father by his first name, but most people would think he wasn't her father, and probably a step dad.

Imagine four biological children who were being directly parented by their father their entire lives and have them call him by his first name?

Point is we are told from an early age on who to call mom and dad. I didn't have a say on who I called my parents. I'm sure as I approach the age of 40, that if I started to call my own parents by their first names they would be quite bother by it.

Unless it is an older adoption, or a kinship adoption where the relatives give the child that option than guess what?
No one really gets to identify who their parents are. They are identified for us.

Instead other people tells us from a young age what things are. You don't get to pick your own name, and in reality biological or not it is someone else telling you who to call mom and dad. I mean if Simone's grandparents really didn't want to be called mom and dad, I 'm sure they would of redirected and teach a young Simone not to and she would of complied.

So no you don't get a say, and if you do it is only with permission.

Thursday, July 28, 2016

We are a nation withOUT checks and balances. II

We are a nation withOUT checks and balances. II

My TV is off. We've always had corrupt politicians, but we have no media to trust.

And that is where I stand. Our security and defenses, whatever the protections we think we have are an illusion.

The DNC hacked emails confirm at least I'm not nuts.

We are clearly owned by the mechanisms of the 1% .

As I tell my kids without trying to incite too much fear.

All we can do is try to be good Catholics and get the laundry done.

I'm voting for a third party.

Donald Trump claimed he wants to make America great again.

I say let's make America again, because I don't recognize this country as being the United States of America. It will be a miracle for our country to recover from this.

Oh never mind me and go enjoy your celebrity endorsements.

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

We are a nation withOUT checks and balances.

That's my thought on what occurred yesterday when the FBI chose not to charge Hilary Clinton for her gross negligence (intended or not, but well she is was the Secretary of State) in handling classified materials. One would think she had an understanding of handling materials that are classified.

Go about your day, it seems no one really cares.


Update on myself

Yep, I'm still working in my research position. I'm still volunteering at DCF. And my views on children and families connected to both sides of maternal and paternal biological kin has not changed.