Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Excuse me I step into a big hot mess.

I have zero tolerance for child abuse/child sexual abuse. I also have zero tolerance for people who try attack of victim of child sexual abuse, and that well includes Milo Yiannopoulos.

Is Milo Yannopoulos a jerk? Sure. Is he a troll. Yes. 

But to use the fact he was a victim of sexual abuse as a way 'to take him down' is well nasty.

"But let’s be crystal clear, because I suspect even my readers are divided on this issue: you have done or said something that can be used to assassinate your character.Again, for clarity: you have said things that the press could assassinate your character with. I guarantee it. Every single person reading this right now has said something which the press could twist into a knife and plunge into your gut. All of you.

I feel like when I want to comment, it is the most crappiest of situations. Do I just go with the flow, and let the troll get socially assassinate in an unfair manner, or do you say 'hey, wait a moment' this isn't right even if you hate the guy. 

I guess I am a bit taken back and horrified, how we learned nothing over the past decade about adults affected by sexual abuse deal with the situation and process it. It's easy to simply disassociate yourself from the situation, but it doesn't solve anything. For the cycle to be broken, it will have to be well ugly. It's creepy that people are with such 'glee' that he was abused as a young teen.

How about this outraged public with pitchforks... how about this... stop... take a breath... and treat Milo like a human being if you think you are so much better than him. "Hey Milo, that's not a healthy response to handling the situation that happened when you were a young teen. You need to get help, because what happened was wrong and we don't want to think what happened to you was even justified." 

Pardon me, I am going to be sick. And I am pissed.

Again I have zero tolerance for sexual child abuse, so to see people 'glee' and 'joy' makes me ill. 

What child past sexual abuse is OK if you hate someone's f*cking guts? Is this the moral standard?

Think about it.

Thursday, February 9, 2017

Umm.. Whatever.. Why I still care about the family

Copy and pasted from a comment I made on Facebook, on the question why I still care. 

People are still having kids, and those kids have a mom and dad. And parents need our support. 
If your boots are on the ground, it’s easier stay committed and even respected by others. 


When gay marriage became legal in Massachusetts, I wasn’t alarmed at all. Seriously, that didn’t alarm me. Knowing a bit of the law, I took it more with a sense of humor and joked with others, “You know you can marry your cousin in Massachusetts.”
Now this is what alarmed me, a lot. The propaganda to silence dissent. It’s creepy and strange, in fact bizarre how everything has become over the past 15 years. I thought I was liberal, in fact maybe I was or still am. Most people were understandable of the potential legal benefits/protections, for relationships that didn’t fall in the older defined view of marriage. I am still this day, and I think most people who even disagree with gay marriage (or just marriage, or maybe nothing because nothing because only the affluent enough to afford a 50k wedding get married) are. But we don’t speak up. It’s an odd fear, that I still have to this day. I have a pit in my stomach, how I will upset people with this response. 
I keep reviewing my point of view, questioning myself. I still hold as a matter of public policy and meaning, that we should treat different types of relationships as different, because they are different. Difference and different needs are OK to acknowledge. One moment I am being preached the importance of diversity, and then I am being lectured that there are no differences in relationships in the name of equality. 
Whatever. 
That’s my response I guess now a days. I am not trying to be flippant. I didn’t fall for it back, then and now I guess I go to my grave in the most charitable way, explaining that individuals have a mom and dad, the relationship between a mom and dad matters for an individual’s well-being. 
Remind you back in 2000 in Massachusetts I had to take a blood test for prenatal conditions BEFORE I could get my marriage license. That’s right in Massachusetts. Yet, I was being told in propaganda children had nothing to do with marriage, despite the assumption of paternity of my husband being the father according to state law. The law and precedence was there, even in Massachusetts. Amazingly the lobby erased that. It’s all about money, but what isn’t. 
But it was easy for the lobby, because we already allowed third party sperm donation in this state. Legally with no recourse, a man who was NOT the father could be on the child’s birth certificate and no one could challenge it. This is unlike a married woman have a child with a man who was NOT the husband, the biological father had standing. This is unlike an adoption, in which there is an original birth certificate. But this was before easy access to DNA testing, no secrets now. The law or the propaganda wants us to be silent on, and the best technique was shame. Shame. Shame! Shame!! Shame!!!
Ummm… Whatever… 

As of now, so many of my friends and acquaintances are separating/divorcing with kids. I am just trying to hold it together and walk with it. 
In the meantime on the public policy front, and fatherhood programs/nurturing parenting programs are much needed. What I am seeing in DCF is parents who love their kids, but don’t know how to parent. I think we need foster parents for the parents.



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Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Beyond Cultural Liberalism

Back in the day, when we use to talk about gay marriage. Wait I brought that up. I remember an article, possible from CNN that wanted to talk about the other 97%. If 3% of Americans are gay, we can't forget that 97% are not. Public policy and the laws and regulations we create as a society also affect the 97% of people who are not gay.

And what about the 100% who are children or were children, didn't our kinship relationships or lack of affect us?

Over a year ago everyone was one the right side of history in the name of equality and rainbow customized Facebook profiles. Here we are with President-elect Trump and elected officials with (R) beside their names. I'm not sure what to think of him or how this Congress will do things, and I didn't vote for him or Hillary Clinton. (I voted for Jill Stein) I do know that Cultural Liberalism was a cancer, it ate up everything I once liked about the Democratic Party when I was younger. The DNC became the ultimate mean and nasty Queen Bee at the cafeteria lunch table.

Now over a decade I've been online using my real name Renee Aste online whether it be blogs, Facebook, or social media. I've been called a lot of bad and untruthful things. And I can admit it didn't feel good, it was hard to think what would people think if someone Google'd me.

Whatever call it or not call it or have no name for it.... public policy and the ability to keep children with their mother and father in a united and stable situation matters. As I tell my children, even gay kids have a mom and dad. For many still I will always be thought of hateful uneducated person, to mock and sneer at for personal fulfillment. I think I have done an OK job over the past day retaining and defending my views, despite just being who I am.

I can't wrap it up in a snarky meme to put anyone to shame. Because that's not the goal. Our families are fragile. Over the past decade people who actually care about the family, have been scapegoated as homophobic and shamed into silence. I keep trying not to be distracted and deal with the problem within my own community at a face to face level. I've volunteered at the Department of Children and Families. I've written detailed experiences to elected officials. I try my best within my own marriage, despite no guarantee it seems anyone will remain married in a healthy relationship. I've seen too many divorces hitting close and closer in my personal social circle.

I hope this can work itself out.

Monday, October 24, 2016

The editor of Vanity Fair wants a good number of us dead.


Abortion has nothing to do with a woman's choice or health, of her body it has everything to do with with the .001% control over the rest of us. We shouldn't exist, and it is a laughable manner to joke about 'retroactively killing us". 

Is anyone else irk'd by a conference that self labels itself as "the new establishment"?

If abortion isn't murder then why does the editor of Vanity Fair even speak of retroactive abortions?

The people in control don't care about us. Got it. 





Wednesday, October 19, 2016

Evil as Political Propaganda in Lowell

This popped up in my Facebook feed from Massachusetts Citizens for Life


I am not judging the people who will get hired, they probably need some extra cash. 
But this is how evil works. 

Evil as in convincing us that a business that kills unborn children lobby heir interests at a street level this election cycle.  

I am a woman. I have no issue getting health care. You do not need Planned Parenthood for health care. We need stability of our relationships and flexibility of work to raise the children. We do not need abortion.  

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Just checking in...

I still work and also volunteer at the Department of Children and Families.

Here is a old post from 2012 on poverty and family structure in Boston. 

Nothing has changed in terms of my opinion of things.





Monday, September 12, 2016

Tim Kaine is a spiritual train wreck.

Yeah, I read what he had to say to the cultural elite 1% to garner their support and love.

Not that Catholic Church should change, but wink wink will change.... um yeah. 


Mr Kaine ever heard of that guy Judas in the Bible who sold out on Jesus for 30 pieces of silver.

You know that one.

Yeah.

It will be six years volunteering at Department of Children and Families on each case we talk about a child having a mother and father and the relationship (good or bad) with mother and father.

As a matter of public policy it is one a few places we can talk about the family, unfortunately we can't talk about the importance of mom and dad working together until we are at the point of government intervention.


Matrimony, in latin, means the act of becoming a mom. the defining purpose is within the name itself, the Sacrament is based on the conjugal act. Matrimony does not imply that someone is a bad person for being gay or simply not being married. Matrimony does imply there are obligations to our behaviors, married or not sex leads to babies and obligations for parents and needed support for them are necessary for the well being of children. Being married, as in a committed vowed relationship that is healthy, is about the product of sexual behavior.

Kids.

You know we are all once children with a point of view on marriage.

Oh Tim, you're a spiritual train wreck.

Who do you think you're fooling?

Judas sat at the table with Jesus and ate.

 Do you think showing up on Sundays for Mass gives you Catholic street cred?

train wreck, people, train wreck