Wednesday, March 30, 2016

Preying on those desperate for work part 4!

I wish I was employed, but I am not. Still looking and I had some interviews, which I am grateful for. Again my scope in employment is somewhat limited, since I do not want to commute and I would like to ease back into a career in a few steps (not a leap). I don't mind working long hours, I just refuse to sit in traffic for long hours.

Preying (part 1)
Preying (part 2)
Preying (part 3)

Friday, March 18, 2016

7QT Good news on our views on marriage


Survey: More Acceptance of Social Changes _ Except Divorce

"The government periodically asks thousands of teens and younger adults what they think about changes in U.S. family relationships. The results released Thursday indicate a shift over a decade on a range of topics. But most surprising was what they said about divorce.Asked if divorce is the best solution when a marriage is on the rocks, 38 percent of women agreed, down from 47 percent a decade earlier. For men, it was 39 percent, down from 44 percent.
Divorce in the U.S. has become more common through the generations, and there's an assumption that acceptance would be holding steady or perhaps increasing, some experts said."

This is good. The underlying purpose and function of marriage is still somehow there. Sure there is a lot of media and political lobbying to divert our attentions, but from a personal point of view marriage matters.

Everyone is quite nervous about speaking up. If I say a mother and father are equally important, and that matrimony is to be addressed at a public policy level as a man and a woman, well guess what you know what will happen to people like me. Somehow it will be twisted that I really dislike people who are gay, even if it isn't true. It stinks, but it is what it is.

People given the conditions in our current state of untrustworthiness towards marriage, they can rationally fear a divorce.

Interesting point in this study, more people on average approve of gay adoption then they do of homosexual behavior?
 Say same-sex relationships are fine; about 60 percent of women, 49 percent of men.

— Agree gay and lesbian adults should have the right to adopt children; 75 percent of women, 68 percent of men.
Even with my work at DCF I never had a conflict with gay adoption, usually by a family member who happens to be gay. Adoption in these situations are not about an intentional denial of birth parents, but rather birth parents are not in a situation that they can safely parent their children due to substance abuse or mental health. Children should not be removed simply due to a parent's young age or if the parents are poor.

Adoption (as needed, not as a want) is much different then third party procreation, a child produced by means of contract and parents are 'clients'. That's human trafficking.  When I speak of adoption, I do not speak of preying on an impoverished woman by an affluent couple who can give her child a better life. Why not give the mother and father and better life, if you really care about this baby?

7. Fun question. 

Yes, this is actually a family based question. I've noticed foster teens in group homes get denied this. Teens in foster homes, where the parent is willing to help get their licence. Not having anyone to teach you to drive from my point of view is child neglect. (No, you do not have to buy them a car.)

Friday, March 4, 2016

7QT Spammy Facebook Posts and Alternatives

More 7QT over at This Ain't The Lyceum

Can you name a city that doesn't have the letter O in it?
How may squares can you see? 
A photo of child with a tragic medical condition "Can I get an 'AMEN'?!?" or else be shamed with guilt as you scroll by

2. It's OK to admit you participated in these viral based posts, that seemingly get 200k in likes and 8000 comments. But social media is about connecting and sharing actual content. I've had conversations with others about how these posts work. Usually a radio station my utilize this concept as a viral addition, but does it create click and to where?

3. They don't add to the conversation with friends or family either. Do I really care if my cousin can get that math equation correct? Is he really a genius!

4. What can we do about it? It seems these internet memes are popular and aren't going away. So what types of questions should we want to ask out friends and family. Do you remember Catholic All Year's "Ask Me This" series? That's actually I good resource of questions, but just put them in Internet meme form to be shared on Facebook.

5. I created some of my own, I ask you to "save" the image and then share that image of your choice on Facebook, It would be great if you could comment and give me feedback.


7. Again take these images and share of your choosing. I'm trying to see if we can't bring some joy back to social media.

Wednesday, March 2, 2016

Good Day at DCF

Since it was a seminar, and not a review. I can talk about. Also an interesting conversation with the pitfalls of kinship placement.

More later.
But feeling good and useful.

Friday, February 26, 2016

I rarely snap, but when I do it's because I really think it was warranted.

Jesus didn't put up with crap and sometimes the Pope can be stern and upset with people's actions. So if you push me, I'll forgive you. If you push me twice, I'm apologize for being upset and stern, because I really don't desire to shovel the crap you attempted to give me. If you push me a third time, you're just asking for it. No one's perfect and I always take the side that there's miscommunication, but some people. 

Some people....

Well some people just relish being a cocky jerk. They think they're being smart or intelligent. They're just being a Trump wannabe. They are not there to weed out differences and find common ground. 


Tried to engage with a person about family public policy, it's a deal breaker for me when voting. It was a nice conversation about one's conscious and even voting a blank ballot if needed. I wasn't looking to get into a pissing contest. 

Of course someone wants to come in all in Social Justice Warrior mode with their 1% backed lobby talking points, that a discussion about family stability is someone damning people to hell imposing their religion. OK, pause think about that. That's really nuts. But well, most if people think that way now a days. Or maybe you're agree with me, but you don't need to be unfriends and harassed falsely as a ignorant person. Or maybe you disagree, but we can discuss real and practical talking points like people did before social media. 

But well you just scroll along. I get it. I understand.  

Friday, February 19, 2016

Renee, any regrets with your blog?


I miss the days when there was a more open discussion and civil (even enjoyable challenging) disagreement, even teasing. If the teasing got out of hand, one could just politely inform that person without getting upset.

We live in a world where we assume the worst in someone.

Random thought on a question a family member asked.