Wednesday, October 19, 2016

Evil as Political Propaganda in Lowell

This popped up in my Facebook feed from Massachusetts Citizens for Life

I am not judging the people who will get hired, they probably need some extra cash. 
But this is how evil works. 

Evil as in convincing us that a business that kills unborn children lobby heir interests at a street level this election cycle.  

I am a woman. I have no issue getting health care. You do not need Planned Parenthood for health care. We need stability of our relationships and flexibility of work to raise the children. We do not need abortion.  

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Just checking in...

I still work and also volunteer at the Department of Children and Families.

Here is a old post from 2012 on poverty and family structure in Boston. 

Nothing has changed in terms of my opinion of things.

Monday, September 12, 2016

Tim Kaine is a spiritual train wreck.

Yeah, I read what he had to say to the cultural elite 1% to garner their support and love.

Not that Catholic Church should change, but wink wink will change.... um yeah. 

Mr Kaine ever heard of that guy Judas in the Bible who sold out on Jesus for 30 pieces of silver.

You know that one.


It will be six years volunteering at Department of Children and Families on each case we talk about a child having a mother and father and the relationship (good or bad) with mother and father.

As a matter of public policy it is one a few places we can talk about the family, unfortunately we can't talk about the importance of mom and dad working together until we are at the point of government intervention.

Matrimony, in latin, means the act of becoming a mom. the defining purpose is within the name itself, the Sacrament is based on the conjugal act. Matrimony does not imply that someone is a bad person for being gay or simply not being married. Matrimony does imply there are obligations to our behaviors, married or not sex leads to babies and obligations for parents and needed support for them are necessary for the well being of children. Being married, as in a committed vowed relationship that is healthy, is about the product of sexual behavior.


You know we are all once children with a point of view on marriage.

Oh Tim, you're a spiritual train wreck.

Who do you think you're fooling?

Judas sat at the table with Jesus and ate.

 Do you think showing up on Sundays for Mass gives you Catholic street cred?

train wreck, people, train wreck

Tuesday, September 6, 2016

"I already know your mother"

Two people I am acquainted with, that I know independent of each other have started to date. I learned that some time ago that their mothers were co-workers.

When it comes to relationships I am always a firm believer in getting to know the family in a reasonable time frame before considering whatever adults do now in their relationships.I don't know I had my teenager daughter explain to me what 'Netflix and Chill' meant, so I am clearly out of the loop there.

But there is something nice about already knowing the family dynamics of other person's family.

Less to figure out.

But also the trust factor, a subject that I posted about earlier this year. If your own mother can vouch for the integrity of the family and if everything independent of that is great, already knowing the person's family is an amazing bonus.

Wednesday, August 24, 2016

I don't know what say when...

When someone talks about children's rights and abortion access in the same breath.

I don't know.

Monday, August 15, 2016

You really don't have a say on who you get to call "mom and dad"

I guess I will directly comment on Simone Biles, the US Gymnast and the media narrative in telling her background story. I'm assuming you know it, and well my criticism comes from people that state we need to respect who she identifies as a mom and dad, and that's real her mom and dad. Being that this was a kinship adoption of an older child, already aware that her mother and father couldn't raise her she was in a unique position to have an opportunity to call her grandparents either by the grandparent name or by "mom and dad" WITH her grandparents permission.

The great majority of us do not have permission on who we get to call mom and dad.

When my first child was just a toddler, she wouldn't call her father (my husband) "dad". Instead she would call her father by his first name, because everyone else called him by that name. No one else called him dad or daddy. She didn't have any older siblings, we had to teach her to call her father "dad". We could have done nothing and allowed her to keep calling her father by his first name, but most people would think he wasn't her father, and probably a step dad.

Imagine four biological children who were being directly parented by their father their entire lives and have them call him by his first name?

Point is we are told from an early age on who to call mom and dad. I didn't have a say on who I called my parents. I'm sure as I approach the age of 40, that if I started to call my own parents by their first names they would be quite bother by it.

Unless it is an older adoption, or a kinship adoption where the relatives give the child that option than guess what?
No one really gets to identify who their parents are. They are identified for us.

Instead other people tells us from a young age what things are. You don't get to pick your own name, and in reality biological or not it is someone else telling you who to call mom and dad. I mean if Simone's grandparents really didn't want to be called mom and dad, I 'm sure they would of redirected and teach a young Simone not to and she would of complied.

So no you don't get a say, and if you do it is only with permission.